There is a decent possibility that in the next 10-20 years the U.S. supreme Court may rule that discrimination against individuals based on sexual orientation is unconstitutional under the Equal Protection Clause. If that is the case, Don't Ask/Don't Tell would not be valid (if it has not been voluntarily repealed before that). The role of gays in the military and society is a difficult issue for this country, not least because America is a pretty religious society and many religions teach that homosexuality is wrong. In this particular case, I would hope folks would have some empathy/compassion for someone trying to do the right thing by her lights (even if we would not agree with her views or approach).