Honestly, don't try to make it into a Norman Rockwell picture. I know it sounds insane, but planning will just create stress. Think about it:
8-10 a.m. breakfast
10-11 showers
11-1 lunch
2 - 4 movie
5-7 dinner at favorite restaurant
8-10 board games
OMG, this is not time to have fun, it is time to report.
I am being exaggerative, but I think you get my point. They don't care about all of that crap. They want to come home, take a deep breath (moving is stressful), hang with the family and make memories.
In the 20 yrs that Bullet was in the AF, and moved to England or AK for 3 yrs at a clip, all we wanted was to drop our bags, and relax. If at 6 we as a group decided to go to the movies, great, and if we didn't well great too.
For us when we came home, the one thing that we always wanted was to have it casual, a time where we could decompress. PCSING is stressful. Calling all of your credit card companies, insurance company, change of address being sent out, movers in your house, cleaning a home top to bottom, and eating out for 5 days morning, noon and night, on top of the fact that they are going to HA means they also had to ship a car, per diems, TLA, booking Q's in Hawaii, etc. is what they just completed last week.
If they have a favorite restaurant make a reservation for one night. If they have a favorite meal, make it. Otherwise, sit back and enjoy their company. Don't plan every day something special. Don't remind them that they need to drive to Aunt Susie to say goodbye to her. Aunt Susie knows they are there and if she wants to see them, can drive to your house and say goodbye to them.
I am not trying to be harsh, but Bullet's and my family were night and day when we did our moves. Bullet's Mom planned because she wanted to make those "special" memories. It was just days of events with timetables. My family was Bullet and Pima will be here from X to Z date, on Y date we are having a BBQ at my Mom's house for all of the cousins, aunts, uncles, etc., come, don't come, but if you want to see them, than here is your opportunity. We woke up everyday when we woke up and did what we wanted to do that day, and during the day we talked about dinner plans. At dinner, if my siblings showed we hung out on the patio, and made plans for the next day, if they didn't show or we didn't make any plans, we woke up the next morning and started the process again.
I get and understand your question, but honestly, they don't need to be entertained. They need time to relax before they have to face in-processing, finding a home, unloading hundreds of boxes, and hoping when they pick up their car at port it is not damaged. That is what is on their mind right now.
Yes, maybe you can't afford to go to HA, but it doesn't mean she won't come back home to OH.
I cannot stress enough how I get where you are coming from, it is hard on her too. I am just of the mind, that after 20 yrs as an AF spouse, as parents we have the ability to play that "this is their last... whatever". You want to make it special. It isn't their last, nor do they see it that way, at least we didn't, but I don't have enough fingers and toes on my body, Bullet's body and my kids bodies after 20 yrs of how many times I heard this is their last. We saw it as this is a pit stop and I will see you soon. We weren't dieing. We were just moving somewhere new for you all to visit.
Sorry for a long post, but because I lived through this for 20 yrs., I just wanted to give you the other side on how they maybe feeling when you do all of this planning. Bullet and I smiled all the while, but when we left we were always more exhausted than when we came because of those good intentions regarding making plans to entertain for as long as we were there.
If you want them to enjoy this time, don't ask us, ask them. Remember their real goal for staying at your house, is not to see the Batman movie, or eating somewhere, it is to spend one on one time with you and their siblings, making memories that they can look back on come Xmas when they are in HA without you.