Future2LtMom
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Wanted to share my DS's experience.
DS is very private and had only shared with a few people his ROTC scholarship news. His scholarship night was by invite only and he assumed he was invited because of his position as a class officer. He was shocked to receive his certificate from an Army Major who listed the benefits of the award, which they valued at $150,000.
The majority of people in the audience were super supportive and offered him praise and congratulations, however the last several days of graduation events have included several snarky remarks from parents who are struggling to determine how they will finance their children's college years.
Some of the comments were so rude, I'm not sure I can continue my friendships with the individuals who uttered them.
Thanks for letting me vent I'm putting on my big girl panties and forgetting about it now!
I remember when I was in high school I told my mom that I couldn't wait to get out of high school so that I didn't have to deal with drama & cattiness anymore. She said, "Honey, I hate to tell you this, but it doesn't stop just because you become an adult". That was a major bummer to hear and, boy, was she right! We haven't had anyone be blatantly rude about our DS getting a scholarship, but we've definitely gotten some bad vibes from one particular family (according to their father, their kids are ALWAYS the smartest, fastest, & best at EVERYTHING). If you even choose to acknowledge these people that have been so rude to you, you could approach it a couple of different ways. You could say something to the effect that, since your son has chosen to serve his country by being an officer in the military, opportunities became available to him that otherwise would not have been, and that your family has been very blessed by this scholarship. Or you could frame it from the perspective that it's actually more of a loan, than a "gift". If he doesn't complete the program or give the military the 8years he owes them in return for the money, he has to pay it back.
Regardless, only your family knows and will ever understand what your son had to go through to get this scholarship. He busted his butt and shouldn't be made to feel bad about it. Congratulations to your DS and the rest of your family!