kjc_25
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This is a pretty minor annoyance and kind of a stupid question to be asking honestly but I was hoping to hear from some girls who have gone to a Service Academy and their experiences with this. It seems like any time I tell a guy I'm trying for the Air Force that they seem really put off and try to get me to reconsider. I live in Colorado Springs so it seems weird that there is such a sentiment around here but anyway, I've talked to 5 or 6 guys who have all told me something to the effect of "wow, military girls are kind of intense, are you sure?" or "do you really want to do this, you're a chick." or "its going to be too dangerous." (Yes I am aware that I'm going to have to possibly take part in an actual conflict). Even if they don't say it outright it is implied that they are turned off or put off by it. One girl told me in front of an entire class that her brother goes to the Naval Academy and he would never date any of the girls there because they were all "too manly." Guys tell me paths I shouldn't take in the military because they are too intense. I've just started telling people I don't know what I want to do after High School to avoid the stigma.
Obviously this is not swaying my decision to attend the Academy at all, I'm not going there to attract guys! I don't think being a girl effects my ability to make this decision or hinder my ability to serve my country. I'm a tomboy sometimes but I still like to dress up and do my nails, and I'm not going to let being in the Air Force take away my femininity. It seems like a double standard though because service academy guys are held up on a pedestal in most cases and sometimes (not all the time) girls are shunned.
For those of you who go to Service Academies, is this how people generally are there? Are all the girls there really super manly? Do none of the guys see you as a potential romantic partner because you are too intense or aggressive? How should one respond to these types of statements? Any advice on how to break the stigma? Thanks so much in advance!
Obviously this is not swaying my decision to attend the Academy at all, I'm not going there to attract guys! I don't think being a girl effects my ability to make this decision or hinder my ability to serve my country. I'm a tomboy sometimes but I still like to dress up and do my nails, and I'm not going to let being in the Air Force take away my femininity. It seems like a double standard though because service academy guys are held up on a pedestal in most cases and sometimes (not all the time) girls are shunned.
For those of you who go to Service Academies, is this how people generally are there? Are all the girls there really super manly? Do none of the guys see you as a potential romantic partner because you are too intense or aggressive? How should one respond to these types of statements? Any advice on how to break the stigma? Thanks so much in advance!