anyone remember an old post about quitting

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  1. skismuggs

    skismuggs Member

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    hi one of my childs friends is considering quitting usafa bct because he "feels" its not the right decision. im trying to help the parents out. i remember a post maybe early this year about someone that quit and regretted it bad. im not sure if its from the AF or WP forums. thanks.
     
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    What year is the Student?
     
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    the one at issue is currently at AF doing BCT. there was a post on here this year about someone that had left and regretted that decision and wanted to come back. just wanted to give the parents some direction and some insights from the people on here. its a tough and trying time for everyone and these kids worked so hard to get here, i just hate to have someone make a rash decision because of a bad day undo everything they had worked for.
     
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    Here is one.

    It might be time for a little tough love.

    This story comes from a very dear friend. A few years ago he was at USNA. After about four weeks of plebe summer he had enough. Called dad and said I made a mistake and I want to come home. This place is not for me. Not enough food. Not enough sleep. It's just to hard to deal with. Dad says I'll be down this evening to pick to you up. Older brother calls USNA to see where to pick him up at. Older brother talks to younger brother to see why he wants to come home. Older brother tells younger brother that you have the opportunity of a life time. Why don't you stick it out for a couple more weeks and see what happens. If at that time you want to quit, call and I'll come get you.(I'm giving you the nice version of what was said.) Dear friend never called his brother or his father to come home. He thanks his older brother every day for that talk. Today dear friend has the word Captain in front of his name USN. I can't tell you what he does today, because you'll figure out who he is. Dear friend offered to play bad cop for my DS last year if he needed it.

    Good Luck, with the talk
     
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    Here's (a long) one...shared with love from the files of the West Point Moms.

    TO: Any Plebe considering leaving West Point at this time

    Consider carefully *why* you are leaving:

    1. Is it because you have seen the Army, some elements of its life and people, and decided that it is not the *life* you want?

    2. Is it because you have seen the inside of West Point, the walls, the System, the "atmosphere," and decided that that is not the *college* you want?

    3. Is it because you have seen the men and women who are the Upper Classes, and decided they are not the *associations* you want?

    4. Is it because life is miserable, you are miserable, West Point is miserable, the people are miserable, the Yearlings (as apart from people) are miserable, the snow is miserable, the classes are miserable, reveille is miserable, marching is miserable, training is miserable, the sky is miserable.....?



    Been there.

    Done that.

    So has everyone else who has gone before you.

    OK. Now listen up. You may quit for any of the reasons 1-3 if you have answered them honestly and dispassionately; if you have *really* looked at what you want in life,... and the Army, its school, and its people are not for you. Know that *most* people who finally leave West Point see these as good and valid reasons. They are. ... And no one will ever think any less of you if you decide to make a success in a different direction of life. That's part of growing up. Part of becoming an adult.

    But Number 4 isn't a good reason. At least not an adult reason. At least not yet.

    NO ONE has ever gone through West Point without serious thoughts of quitting. That's what the first year is for. If you WEREN'T thinking of resigning, the Academy has at least partially failed in testing your hopes, your dreams, your upbringing, ...you. You are in a dark fog now, a fog known by every other cadet--Plebe and upper-class alike, both present and prior classes, every graduate and non-graduate. It is after Christmas, Christmas Leave, and before Spring. It is Gloom Period.

    Don't even think of a rational decision now. You're more than halfway to Recognition, to Yearling status, to having *Beat Them At Their Own Game.*

    What you're *not,* is finished with... - An academic year that you can transfer - Building the ability to hold your head up to say "I finished everything they could throw at me" - The test of your life to date



    You STAY until the end of the year. You stay four months. You stay through Spring, and then May.

    Then your options are anything you want. Do anything any earlier and you will always wonder "....What if?" And ask yourself, "If only...." And you will have wasted the most valuable year of your life. For you will have quit in the middle of the Lesson, ...the middle of finding out who you are.

    What you should never NEVER do, however,...is stay for your family,...your Mother, Father, brothers, sisters,...uncles, grandparents, ...or anyone else who thinks they have the right to ask you to remain at West Point.

    No one has that right. That right, that choice, that decision is yours alone.

    West Point is only for those who live the life, walk the walk, dream the dream. And sometimes that takes time.

    Take that time.

    Never quit until you've beat the system.

    Then your life's your own, and no one can ever take it from you.

    Mike Havey`68
     
  6. skismuggs

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    brought tears to my eyes. thanks i will forward to basics' dad
     
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    YES THAT WAS THE ONE, PERFECT!!! thanks sooooo much
     
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    No problem, I had a hunch that was who you were talking about.
     
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    that was a really good article, thanks
     
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    Agree, great article
     

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