Recently, I was placed on probation by my squadron leadership. My AOC told me to inform my parents about my probation during a formal meeting (SCRB). It would not have been appropriate for me to respond that I had no intention to tell them; informing my parents would damage our relationship more than the average parent-child relationship. I received a Category II Offense for Failure to Follow a Direct Order with loss of civilian clothing for 3 months as a result. My question is, Does my AOC have the ability/right to inform my parents about my probation. Under my "Privacy Act and Points of Contact" information it states "Cadet has refused to provide." I feel that my commander does not have a right to make me tell my parents or call them because I am an independent adult and responsible for my consequences. I should be able to keep my family and work life separate. I do not need family relationship problems in addition to the consequences of my probation and Academy life.