Be Careful.......

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  1. tug_boat

    tug_boat Member

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    Okay, as the most difficult time is here, the “waiting and silent treatment” I just want to tell ya something.

    My son’s friend last year was awarded a very prestigious AFROTC scholarship to a top-notch aeronautical school in Prescott AZ. (EM) He was at the top of his class and off the chart ACT/SAT scores. Just a top-notch kid, the kind of kid you want your daughter or sister to hang around, because he was going somewhere in life. Well, that all came to an abrupt halt during his first month at “EM” when his CO asked him if he had been drinking alcohol the previous August. A moment had passed before he answered “no”.

    Let me rewind things back to that previous August. My son and his friends, from high school, were getting together at the beach and having a bonfire to celebrate their success before they went off to the colleges they had worked so hard for. Two of the kids there had received the BFE to Air Force Academy and were walking on cloud “9”. Seemed harmless enough and my son wanted to go also. I told him “no” and we fought about it, he had enough respect for me not go but I pondered if damage had occurred between us.

    During the little get together a case of beer was opened up and all participated.

    Little did my son’s friend know, the two AFA cadet candidates had been released on an honor code violation for underage drinking and lying. Word had spread and it reached my son’s friend. He was released from his scholarship because he did not report the incident initially and for lying about it.

    How did they find out about the incident you may ask? I have no clue nor did it come from my camp. I truly felt for these kids who had the world by the tail and lost it all for something they could have prevented.

    Speculation has it, during their bonfire; the fire ring next to them was a Marine Colonel from Camp Pendleton with his family. He didn’t appreciate the loud expletives being said and their attitude as the case of beer was being exhausted. It was easy to connect the dots; two of the kids were wearing AFA clothes.

    As time gets closer to when the BFEs are released from Admin. please be careful and conduct yourself in a manner as if you were already a Cadet.

    Push Hard, Press Forward
     
  2. GoBlue1984

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    Tug - Thanks for sharing. A few things to learn from this:

    1) Lying about an incident is as worse, or worse than, the incident. One never knows for certain, but if the cadets or ROTC student had admitted their indiscretion, maybe they would have one strike but not been discharged. Tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

    2) As a HS graduate/cadet, you're a big boy or girl now and your actions and decisions have consequences. You might have been able to get by with lying in the past but now that you are an adult, your lies will eventually find you out. Consequences of your actions are real, and can lead to things that are a whole lot worse than being released from an academy or ROTC. What if there had been a car accident on the way home that killed someone? Are you ready for a stint in prison?

    3) Nothing ever good comes from excessive drinking of alcohol, and particularly underage drinking. There is a good reason the drinking age is 21: you don't make the best decisions until sometime in your mid-20's. One mark of maturity is considering the potential consequences before you act. I think most of us who are older can look back and see we made decisions when we were young adults that might have not been the most wise in retrospect.

    4) Lastly, how others perceive you has a direct impact on your life, and the corollary is you can never predict how someone you may offend now can come back to haunt you later. This is true both in the Military and Civilian life. They are called personal land-mines and if you step on one, you may find your career is as good as dead. Consequently do everything you can to show respect, dignity, and concern for other people. If you think this seems unfair, see item #2.
     
  3. tug_boat

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    ….bump

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  4. andzgrl

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    Thank you!
    Wise words.
    Great advice!
    I appreciate your taking the time to write this!
     
  5. Sawndog

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    Or "be smart enough to not get caught" - GEN Michael Maples

    Disregard my bad influence :shake:
     
  6. DadOfSwags

    DadOfSwags Proud USMA2016 Dad

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    Reminded me of something I read on here some time back and I was anle to find it... check out this old post. Somewhere in middle (around post #30) the topic turns to this same "Be Careful" idea. Honesty will always trump the alternatives.

    http://www.serviceacademyforums.com/showthread.php?t=30091

    What happens after getting into USMA?


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  7. kinnem

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    Thanks for the post tug. I forwarded to DS who is about to turn 21 and I'm sure thinks he is immune. It's OK to have fun but be responsible and THINK first.
     
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    Thank you for the kind and wise words, tug. I will definitely keep these words in mind as I enjoy my senior year. :smile:
     
  9. tug_boat

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    Some thing to keep in mind...

    Those who have been offered an appointment, this is just something to keep in the the back of your mind. Make good choices!!

    Push Hard, Press Forward
     

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