@Pima and USMCGRUNT
Thanks. Wasn't sure what I wanted, but this is very satisfactory.
I don't believe anybody can be taught tact, they can learn through their own experiences, but I don't believe you can view it as an academic aspect via reading anything.
Every circumstance is different because people are different. You need to be able to read the people in the situation and navigate the situation based on the personalities in that situation. You could say one thing and be the hero of the group, but say the exact same thing again the next time and you will be the devil. All because the personalities in the situation have changed. The subject and circumstances could be the exact same, the difference is the audience. That is where tact comes in and why reading any and every book could lead nowhere.
Yes, some cadets make the same mistake every year despite seeing former cadets suffer the consequences. Those cadets that are diligent and true to the purpose benefit while those that err in their behaviors and beliefs fall below their original goal.
Just me, but it is a pretty simple equation we were all taught when we were young. Listen and watch others before speaking. That will be your guide.
~ People will say the smallest of comments and if you listen than you will be able to navigate the situation. If you don't it can explode into a bigger issue.
"The ability to deal with others in a manner that will maintain good relations and avoid offense. More simply stated, tact is the ability to say and do the right thing at the right time."
Leaders must command respect, and part of that is respecting their subordinates. A leader helps prove that respect for their subordinates by tactfully and respectfully interacting with them.
"Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell and they look forward to the trip."
Tact is nothing without the knowledge: "Nice words are not always true, and true words are not always nice!"