We are visiting during this time and wondered if anyone else with a DD would like to get together to have DD's meet. I live in WV and plan to visit the Academy 2 times a month provided she is selected. So if you are interested give me a PM. I think it would better to have a couple of people checking on DD's if you cann't always make it. It would be good to have a escape for the day dinner,place to rest ect.
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Midparenthopeful
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Correct me if I am wrong, but if your DD needs to be looked in on every other week, maybe she is not ready for USNA. Once you leave DD at USNA on "I" day, the US Navy will be checking on her regularly. Anyone else care to weigh in on this? I think the last think plebes want is their parents checking up on them....time to cut the apron strings!
Concur with midparenthopeful. Most of their life at USNA, especially as a Plebe, is beyond their control. Plebe liberty starts at noon on Saturday, and they must be back on the Yard by midnight; Yard liberty on Sunday. Sometimes they have to stand watch on a weekend (my Youngster had to do this after both A/N games he has been to), so your plans can go up in smoke, even at the last minute. Sometimes they have to do things with their Company, and the fact that parents are coming to take them out to dinner does NOT excuse them from participating. These kids become so connected with each other after going through the crucible of Plebe Summer, that their classmates and companymates become their "new" family. They go into DTA together, they work out together, they go to the mall together, they go to someone's sponsor's house together, they have study groups together. Not saying parents should not visit, but it truly is time to cut that cord (and as a card-carrying helicopter parent, this was tough!)
Maybe I am reading too much into the original post, but if the concern is for a daughter's safety, she will be a whole lot safer there than at any other "normal" college.
Maybe I am reading too much into the original post, but if the concern is for a daughter's safety, she will be a whole lot safer there than at any other "normal" college.
Wow! what a way to jump to conclusions
Well my understanding is that Plebes only get from noon to midnight on Saturday to escape. I also think it is encouraged that they sign up for a sponsor family to go to dinner, provide a place to crash and just get away. As far as her being ready WOW you are quite judgemental. I know you are basing this on the fact that you know us so well. I could go into her info but why? I will be their when I can and if another cadet needs time away or a free dinner or a movie I will be their for them and as many as I can.
Well my understanding is that Plebes only get from noon to midnight on Saturday to escape. I also think it is encouraged that they sign up for a sponsor family to go to dinner, provide a place to crash and just get away. As far as her being ready WOW you are quite judgemental. I know you are basing this on the fact that you know us so well. I could go into her info but why? I will be their when I can and if another cadet needs time away or a free dinner or a movie I will be their for them and as many as I can.
1. I do not think that "hopeful" was being judgmental, only realistic. We live less than an hour away from the Yard, and last year our Plebe came home for every long weekend. The drive back to Annapolis after winter break was done in deafening silence. This year, our Youngster spent Thanksgiving in Florida with another Mid, and frankly was ready to go back to the Yard after a week of being home during winter break. Point is, they grow, and sometimes it is very hard for parents to let go. Sometimes it depends on how much time a child has spent away from home at camps, retreats, etc., in terms of how well they adapt to being away from home. There is no right answer for every situation, other than to follow your child's lead. If someone is homesick, perhaps bi-monthly visits would just exacerbate that, OR if someone is independent, yet close to family, those visits would be a great opportunity to share and catch up (because they really do not have a lot of time during the week to call or email).
2. They are Midshipmen, not cadets. If she's gonna go there, you gotta learn the lingo!!
2. They are Midshipmen, not cadets. If she's gonna go there, you gotta learn the lingo!!
DS has had watch nearly every 3-day weekend this year (plebe year). Other weekends he spent catching up on homework, doing boards, working out, and getting to know the other plebes in his company (and don't forget the football games in the fall). He has been to his sponsor's house once. Each mid is different, but he does not feel the need to "escape". Weekends are more relaxed, and most of the time he enjoys spending them on the yard.
To add:
I wouldn't bother trying to arrange friends for your DD. They quickly make friends and create a new family during plebe summer - it's called their Company. So, unless they happen to be in the same (or adjacent) company, chances are girls who meet now will never see each other during plebe summer or academic year. Nor will they feel a need to.
I wouldn't bother trying to arrange friends for your DD. They quickly make friends and create a new family during plebe summer - it's called their Company. So, unless they happen to be in the same (or adjacent) company, chances are girls who meet now will never see each other during plebe summer or academic year. Nor will they feel a need to.