I never shed a tear for a stellar candidate who does not get in. I never shed a tear for a not-so-stellar candidate who does not get in either. In both cases, those kids are at the top of their classes, have great work and study ethics, have participated in sports and extra-curricular activities, and can produce a stack of recommendations from any number of enthusiastic adults. The world is their oyster, with or without the Academy, and any school would be absolutely delighted to welcome them to their freshman class. Their future is not just bright---it is shining. The goal of the now-missed Academy education is to be a Naval Officer but that achievement is still wide open for them with NROTC or OCS.
Having said that, I also do find most of my candidates write big checks with their mouth that their bodies never cash. All of my candidates sincerely assure me that they will reapply next year too. Yet in all my years of being a BGO only one has ever really applied a second time, and this is still after I have related my experience of applying 3 times and going to 2 years of college before my own appointment. In checking up on past candidates who did not get in, I found the number actively involved in ROTC of any sorts was pretty thin. OCS? Not on anybody's radar. So as a result, I see a turndown as the first step to seeing what kind of commitment and motivation a young person really has. If and when they show up on my web page the next year, I sit up and take notice-----perhaps guts and drive are alive and well yet in today's generation.