I am a prospective candidate for West Point and lately I have been doing a ton of research and talking to a lot of people from my high school who have gone there. I have also been talking to my JROTC instructor who is a graduate and thinks I have a great shot of getting in. However, I am greatly concerned of the social aspect. Yes, i know people out there say all the time if you have second thoughts about applying you should not apply, but lets be realistic in that everyone will have some sort of doubt about such a commitment. if not now, at the academy itself. Continuing on, a social aspect is very important to ones happiness. I am not talking about partying and drinking for that only leads to temporary happiness. I am talking about finding relationships with women. College is the last time you will be with people of one's own age group making it a very unique experience. One gets to be in many relationships and see what type of girl they want to spend the rest of their life with and in doing so, discovering a lot about oneself... you get the idea. I recently talked to one graduate who had very one sided argument and I really want to know how true what he is saying is if any of it at all.He said that West Point is not worth the four years you could have at a college...it puts you way behind your counterparts in finding a wife and it puts major stress on your life. he also argued that finding a wife you want to spend the rest of you life is one of the most important decisions of your life and you are putting yourself at a serious disadvantage by going to West Point. he also says to ask around because most people who get married from west point wind up getting divorces not once, but two times, and sometimes three. He concluded that talk is cheap and that i should ask around before coming to a conclusion myself. Please do not take what I am saying as an attack on West Point. West Point is an amazing school with amazing opportunities. I will have a great career if given the opportunity to go and and will be molded into a great officer without a doubt. however, this one aspect is keeping me from going crazy about West Point. Also, i know I have to be accepted first and all that, but if im not crazy about it maybe I should not apply at all. This is why I am trying to figure this out now. So basically is the graduate I talked to right in any way? In your experience, how important is dating and finding a wife at such a young age? Can it be put off? Any help would be great and please no negative comments.