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LG as far as kids not being capable, I think we can assist in teaching them or finding someone who can teach them to do what it is that may be beyond them. I think it is better to attempt to do something and fail, then to not try at all. And, it all depends on what it is and even if they have an interest. Now, you would not have them attempt to go way beyond their expertise, such as brain surgery, but if they have an interest and just not the skills, perhaps doing some research on what it is they want to do; with an emphasis on what "they" want to do and finding ways for them to observe someone in the action of performing the task can be quite beneficial.Same goes with applications, homework, chores, or any task and/or interaction. "Has the child attempted to resolve the issue themselves?" "Has the child done their BEST to take care of it?"
The next dilemma that I struggle with - what do I do once I determine my kids are not capable of doing something? What do I do if I determine that my kids have potential to do something but they are not applying themselves? Do I give up or do I keep on "helping?"
For example, one of my kids have a potential to do play a HS varsity sports (my kid's high school is very competitive). When I say potential, it's not just me rather her coaches and other parents that have experience.
As far as playing a sport that your DD happens to be very good at, I would not push her to play if she does not want to play. However, I would not just let her sit around and do nothing either. I would steer her towards her own interests and encourage her to pursue those, especially if she is good at them. Following her passions will do far more good for her self confidence and ability to succeed than forcing her to play a sport she is not interested in, no matter how good she is at it. You also have to be careful and try hard not to be disappointed IN HER because she doesn't listen to the "experts" and play the sport and support her in her own passions while all the while steering her in the direction that a wise parent knows best. That's my two cents worth and that won't even buy you a piece of bubble gum!