Girls/Dating

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  1. USAFMortensen

    USAFMortensen Member

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    So I know that this topic has been on every appointee's mind so I'm going to ask for everyone.

    What kind of opportunities are available for dating/meeting girls? I know there aren't many, I read that the guy/girl ratio is 80/20, but I also know there are many other civilian colleges in the nearby area. Is there enough time for dating? I personally will MAKE time ;) but I'm just curious on that aspect of academy life!
     
  2. PositiveThinking

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    This brought back a funny memory for me:

    Back in the early 80's I attended college in a town with an Air Force base. One year our neighbors in the next apartment were brand new AF Academy grads. They were really great guys, but their social skills with girls were SERIOUSLY rusty! :rolleyes: They treated my roommates and me like we were some sort of exotic alien species (we were all little blonde Texas sorority girls, so I guess maybe we were!). It didn't take them too long to get up to speed, and one actually had a girlfriend by the end of the year, but we had some funny moments! I was a Navy brat and had a "Fly Navy" bumper sticker on my car, which they enjoyed giving me a bad time about. :wink:

    This was LONG AGO of course, and I'm sure the dating situation at the AFA is much brighter now (I hope!). Good luck!
     
  3. HNeedle

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    haha; i dont think the dating situation is much brighter.

    there's always the opportunity to "do blue" (aka date girls at usafa). That may or may not turn out to be an excellent decision or a disaster.

    There's a few small colleges in the springs; most people i know go up to denver or boulder and hang out with people there (and a lot get in trouble for doing stupid things at other colleges)

    Most academy guys lose their social ability to talk to girls (or get veeerry rusty) over the course of the 4 years; i definitely have, and most of my friends have too. it takes a few weeks/months to get it back when you're home on leave

    so, you cant do much as 3 and 4 degrees because you dont have a car. but firsties and 2digs do have cars and can leave during the week, so they can go out and improve their "social skills." haha, hope this helps.
     
  4. Christcorp

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    Mortensen. This is the Military. If they want you to have a girl friend, they WILL issue you one. :rofl: Mike....
     
  5. USAFMortensen

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    Haha thanks guys very encouraging... As active duty stationed at Edwards AFB (Which is in the middle of NOWHERE) I've already had two years of being surrounded by men in the middle of the desert. Please give me SOME hope!!! ;)
     
  6. CadCandMateus

    CadCandMateus Recent Grad

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    Ofcourse there is time. The opportunities are there as well.

    (all i say is take advantage of your preppie year)
     
  7. eagle36

    eagle36 USAFA Alumnus

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    sorry, no hope speech here.

    honestly, do ppl find "soul mates" here? yes. whether cadets, C Springs girl, Denver, w/e. quite a few people date here, but most often they break it off and things turn awkward. especially cadets dating each other, it's like HS again. you still see the same ppl every day and hang in certain groups and i'd argue its harder than at a normal college to not see people again for a while.

    that being said, i was open to dating here after my freshmen year. i did date a girl from the springs, which after less than 2 months ended TERRIBLY. honestly, i'd say be open to it but don't necessarily go looking for it. when it's time, it'll happen. now this is hard advice to give coming from someone about to graduate when i pictured myself growing up as finding a girlfriend in college to marry, but such is life. when the time is right, it'll be right.

    best of luck.
     
  8. futurepilot22

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    Just out of curiousity( I'm male)...is the opposite true for female cadets? I'd think with a 4:1 ratio it'd be a bit easier for them.
     
  9. CadCandMateus

    CadCandMateus Recent Grad

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    Dating a cadet does pose the risk for awkwardness, eagle speaks the truth.
     
  10. falconchic88

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    Well, I took that risk, dated a fellow squadron member, and 22 yrs later its still "falconlove" so there's hope, and time, and opportunity.
     
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  11. CadCandMateus

    CadCandMateus Recent Grad

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    the few, the proud.
     
  12. HNeedle

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    the falconlovers?
     
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    packermatt7 USAFA Cadet

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    odds are for you, ladies.
     
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    eagle36 USAFA Alumnus

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    Most amazing video I have ever seen.
     
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    I really did LOL on Christcorp's response to this thread.
     
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  17. JustCallMeDan7

    JustCallMeDan7 USAFA Cadet

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    As far as dating goes.....try to avoid it until after freshmen year. I see alot of people that go for it freshmen year and most end awkwardly and provoke alot of distraction, especially towards academics.

    That being said, my advice is never "go blue". From my experience, its just not worth it in the long run. I know alot of healthier relationships among cadets, but most of them are prior relationships made in HS or at the prep. But not always.

    To meet girls, go off base. Go to Denver.....its the best place to go for girls. If you have a friend in DU or anywhere around there, then you're good and it will be much easier for you. If not, try to find some friends off base, noncadets, that can easily introduce you to their lady friends.

    Girls, you have it easy. You have the ability to be selective. guys....no so much. But really.....go off base for dating. NO FALCON LOVE!!! At least for muah....
     
  18. CadCandMateus

    CadCandMateus Recent Grad

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    and thats the truth my friend
     
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  19. Christcorp

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    I think the soviet union and some other places still have some Mail Order Brides. I'll see if I can find their website. Has anyone checked out E-bay?

    On a serious note, don't be in such a rush. You are going to have the opportunity to make a lot of friends. Some girls, some guys. Some cadets, some civilians. Don't be in a rush. Let relationships evolve naturally.

    Now, if some of you are using the word "DATING" to "ELUDE" to "Having Sex", then at least be honest and say it. Sorry, I speak what's on my mind. Is that what some of you are asking about? If so, just say it. If you mean dating as: finding another person whereby your relationship can grow deeper and become closer; then as I said, you'll have plenty of opportunities to meet people and develop relationships.

    There are some people that are looking for a girl/guy. There are some that are coming in looking for a husband/wife. Don't be in such a rush. You have very little time for any serious "Dating Relationship". Get to know your squadron and classmates. Develop those relationships. If one of those relationships grow deeper, then great. If not, so what? You'll have plenty of time for "dating". But it definitely shouldn't be one of your major concerns walking into the academy. Let it happen when it happens. It will.
     
  20. Lilly

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    Now, of course, traditionally if you want to "ELUDE" having sex you join the French Foreign Legion, unless we intend to allude to alternative lifestyles. :shake:

    Couldn't resist!!! :wink:
     

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