Loss of Loved One While on Sea Term

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  1. IrishMom

    IrishMom New Member

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    Our son is at sea and we are facing the loss of his grandmother. We have tried to prep him as much as possible and have expressed that she would want him to continue working hard. Any suggestions on other things we should do?? Difficult time for all of us...
     
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    kpmid2013 New Member

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    I went through the same thing myself last year. I was in the Mediterranean when I got the news. My mom made it very clear to me that my grandmother would want me to continue doing what I was doing and not jeopardize accomplishing my goals to come home. I managed to stay aboard and just kind of dove into my work and kept moving. I had my time when I came home to say goodbye when I went home and visited the grave site. I also was able to get some things off my chest by writing a eulogy for her which I sent home and one of my good friends read at the funeral. Hope this helps. Sorry for your loss.
     
  3. bugsy

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    Ask him if he wouldn't mind writing a short note on a small piece of paper and hide it somewhere at each port that he visits. Spreading the memory of his grandma across the world. Best wishes.
     
  4. Navy4ever

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    Great idea Bugsy:smile:
     
  5. IrishMom

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    Thank you for the helpful responses. We are fortunate to have a great crew looking out for our DS. Two KP engineer alums have really gone above and beyond to teach our son the ropes and make him feel welcome. We have shared your ideas and encouraged him to throw himself into his work. Hopefully this will make this tough loss manageable.
     
  6. IrishMom

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    Should have send an entire crew that is supportive of our son...I hope all of the Maritime Industry is like the people on this ship.
     
  7. Blue&SilverBear

    Blue&SilverBear USAFA Alumnus

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    Unfortunately missing major family events is part of Service Academy life. I was thankful to never miss a funeral, but I did miss two cousins' weddings due to training (one in the field, one spinning up to go to Kuwait) while a Cadet.

    These are tough kids and they'll make it. Condolences to your family.
     
  8. cmakin

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    Not just Service Academy life, but a seagoing career, too.
     

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