Our son didn't get accepted till April (they gave him 2 days to decide). His ethnicity is from Scandinavian descent (it is obvious). We do not have any military background other than his deceased Grandpa who was a cook in the Navy for 4 short years.
We went through the waiver process too. As I have posted before, the folks processing the waivers have a
very large stack of paperwork on their desk. Our contact appreciated us reaching out knowing that if she succeeded in the waiver process, he was going to USAFA. I'm convinced his folder got pulled out of the middle of the thick stack. When the AF cardiologist had some questions (nothing to do with the medical file but rather why we went to the Mayo to go the the foremost authority of pediatric cardiology who blessed him off as not having an issue) I was able to answer his question via a note. My strong guess would be I may have not been asked if I wasn't close to the process. When I let them know West Point granted a waiver, I'm pretty sure that too helped. In conclusion, by us reaching out, it helped the AF cardiologist make his decision to grant the waiver on a condition that really was made up by another doctor. Long story and a battle that took nothing shy of 100+ hours to remove a condition misdiagnosed that was pretty serious...
Others mileage may vary and think reaching out will hurt. But I'm a huge fan of
respectively interjecting a personal presence in the background for important decisions. If you go about it in the wrong way you will make things worse. Put your sales hat on. Don't be a pitbull but rather a soft presence of excitement and concern.
Of course if everyone with a waiver called to bug them, that would nearly always work against because you because you would be PITA. But the reality (per my DoBMERB contact that is located inside of USAFA) too many of the people who are DQed requiring a waiver simply move on to another plan and erase their desire to attend. In other words, it was one college of many without a burning desire to go to USAFA. That means there are a lot of granted waivers that were wasted energy. I will share my path and approach if you drop me a PM.
Fast forward. It's been a wonderful ride and exciting times are ahead of him. He loved USAFA and the AF and is off to grad school this fall. Things happen for a reason. I'm convinced by getting involved, we helped shape his pending destiny!