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My daughter is accepting her USNA offer, she just told her mother. Mom is very much against her going and this is really bothering my daughter.
We are not a family with career military history and our daughter is an only child so I do sympathize. There are many news articles describing a number of negative recent events, sexual misconduct, hazing,ect.
I choose to support my daughter completely, have any of you had a spouse who felt like my wife and how did it progress? I can do a balancing act but worry about their future relationship.
Back to the OP now, I was also the only child, the cherished daughter, of a family with no career military officer history, who decided to head off to the Navy. I didn't want to be a burden to them after college, and that "equal pay for equal work," plus the idea of serving my country in some mighty cool places, did the trick for me. My parents were definitely concerned, as this was at a time when some really bad stuff was happening as women entered the services in greater and greater numbers. Yeah, some stuff happened, but I dealt with it, it made me strong and confident, and I give the Navy every credit for the leadership skills and and life-expanding experiences I was privileged to enjoy over a 26 year career as a naval officer.
Remember the news tends to report the bad stuff. There are a thousand-fold more positive experiences awaiting your daughter as she learns and grows in confidence, skill and ability. She will make lifelong friends amongst her classmates and team-mates. She will be challenged, no doubt, and there will be "stuff" to deal with. She will figure it out. No different from the civilian world, and arguably, with more internal reporting and resolution mechanisms than many civilian employers offer when it comes to dealing with a substantive issue.
You will watch her change before your eyes, and rejoice in her trials and triumphs.
By the way, it was my father who was most concerned, and my mother the most supportive. At age 19, she and her best friend took a train to New York City right after Pearl Harbor was attacked. They took the Civil Service exam, took a troop train across the country to a school in San Francisco, then a troop transport to Honolulu. She was an air traffic controller at the Hickam Army Air Corps base during the remainder of WWII. I know exactly where I got the courage to seek a Navy commission at age 20. I did take a little kidding from my 3 uncles who served as enlisted battleship sailors about being an officer...and they were all there to see me take my oath.