Wow, I think this thread has become a little frayed!
First let me say that this whole thread started with a basic question which was more or less “what does the kid need to bring to wear after hours”. And the reason for that question was that there was no way of knowing whether my son and his host would be settling into the library to study or lifting in the weight room. The answers were extremely helpful.
For his arrival and for the following day, my son wore exactly what he wears to school every day. His haircut/grooming and dress are strictly mandated by a high school dress code. And for those who made suggestions, I’m sure they were very helpful to many of the people who viewed the thread. Wanting to know, for very practical reasons, what type of clothing is suggested hardly falls under the “helicopter parent” umbrella. I would never have thought of shorts and sneakers without the reply that was posted.
With regard to the interview questions, I know it’s nice to know what to expect, but when the time comes to ask questions, only you will know what to ask. And I wonder if it’s a good idea to plan ahead. It would backfire to ask the question you “prepared” if the question is answered during the presentation. All you’d accomplish is to make the admissions person think you weren’t listening.
One thing I will go out on a limb and say is that when it’s time for questions, mom and dad may want to sit back and just shut up. During our admissions “meeting”, I kept my mouth firmly shut. I had no idea what my son might ask until the words came out of his mouth. He asked good questions – specific questions – and I had pretty much no idea what the hell he was talking about. The admissions officer knew – and that was all that mattered.
We have been visiting service academies since DS was a sophomore. I can’t begin to tell you some of things I’ve seen and heard from parents. Parents don’t want to hear this, but the time to let go was yesterday. If your child doesn’t know what to ask or say during a visit to a Service Academy at the point where they are entering senior year, there’s a problem.
I consider myself unusually lucky. This path to a service academy was something that came out of left field from my son somewhere around the third grade. No one in the family has ever attended a service academy and we are not a military family. He’s been visiting, studying and researching every academy in which he has an interest for years. He knows that he wants a military career and has worked backwards from that eventual goal to determine the best route to get there with the degree he will need.
As far as knowing what to pack for an overnight, I defend the original question on this thread. When my son reports for whatever school he attends, they will surely teach him how to pack and probably do a better job than I can. Until he leaves my house, I’ll still be making sure he packs clean underwear. It’s just a mom thing.
If your son is as busy as mine was as a senior he doesn't have time to sort out what to wear or bring to a service academy overnight visit. Unlike those legacies--those of us new to the academy environment didn't even imagine a need for "sports" clothes. My son had to borrow some on his overnight. 
. Yes he made it through the overnight and Indoc and is quite happy and seems from afar to be doing well--midterms will tell
