I don't think any of the comments are harsh. The only thing being emphasized is:
1. DON'T call the academy. They are not a traditional university expecting or happy to hear mom/dad calling about little Johnny or Janie. Just like if your son or daughter had enlisted, and after BMT (BCT for enlisted), they went off to their technical school, you shouldn't be calling their squadron.
2. DO emphasize with your son/daughter that THEY need to check on some things for you. Matter of fact, being you won't have any contact with them during BCT, except through snail mail, and BCT IS NOT THE TIME for your son/daughter to be asking questions about things "After BCT"; I suggest giving your son or daughter a small list of things for them to check on after BCT. They can put this small list in their wallet. A question such as "After BCT, are we allowed to go anywhere after church?; is a good question.
Every class year and every squadron is different. Some get their phones immediately after BCT. Some at Parent's Weekend. Some not until October. They may say that except for going to chapel, the cadet is not allowed to leave the cadet area at all; for any reason. Then again, they might allow them to go to Arnold hall. Again, you need to have your son/daughter ask about this AFTER BCT.
Dohdean; I'm not dogging you, but don't think that it's "Reasonable" that they should be allowed to have a picnic after church or at Arnold Hall. It's just as reasonable for their squadron to say that all squadron members will eat all meals together. Especially so soon into their academy career.
I don't think anyone is trying to be harsh or mean to anyone. We know that the vast majority of posters have no experience with the military whatsoever. But Pima and Scraper are 100% correct. Your son/daughter needs to be the one that finds answers for you. As much as you want to think that the academy is a college, school, university, etc... with similar policies and procedures, it isn't. It's actually the military, which is their job. And currently, your cadet's Job/AFSC/Specialty Code is: STUDENT. And their job happens to be a 24/7 job with some occasional time off. Most people who's son/daughter enlist, have no real problem realizing that they are now in the military. But many academy parents have a hard time realizing their son/daughter are in the military. To them, it's just a university. A little different than traditional college, but still "School". Anyway dallas; there is no harsh intent to anyone's postings to you. They simply wanted to emphasize that your son needs to find the answers out for you; not you calling and finding out. And in the military, it's not reasonable to assume anything. Best of luck to you.