Pima
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sprog said:However, the reasons for the free leave appear to center around the practicalities of obtaining a civil marriage license as opposed to correcting for past discrimination.
Bullet and I were married in NJ. When we got married, it was mandatory for a blood test to be drawn within 30 days prior to the wedding, and no less than 3 days prior. Bullet was in CA at the time as a UNT student. He couldn't just fly back home and get married over a weekend. He was charged leave.
So if it is not correcting the past than how is it fair? As I have stated our DS will get married over a holiday weekend next yr. He knows it will come out of his leave account. He too will be married not at his duty station in TX, but in NC. He knows he needs to have leave in his account.
In all essence of equality, than maybe the rule should be that they are allowed to go up to 10 days in the hole for leave due to the fact that they may have to go out of state. However, to say since only 37 states allow homosexual unions and many may have to travel than more than 100 miles is BS to me.
Out of all my friends during the course of Bullet's career I can count on my one hand that got married at their duty station. Our DS's AF peers are all getting married now. Not one is planning a wedding at Del Rio, they are all going back home for their wedding.
That is how most weddings go. They want love ones with them, and typically they go to the place where at least one of the couple resides.