Rejected

Spring break - came home to TWE

DS came home yesterday from spring break to the dreaded TWE. I didn't know what to think; I guess by now I sort of expected the TWE, but was still disappointed. I really appreciate all the kind words in this forum reminding all of us (as if mom needed reminding) about how terrific and successful all the candidates truly are. But DS, while disappointed, has started to be even more excited about his new Plan A (phrase borrowed from another poster - I love it!!).

One really great thing about this intense, long and harrowing application process is that it made him to think about what he truly wants. In looking back, I think he came up with a much better 'plan B' - one that reflects way more thought and effort than he might have come up with otherwise.

As he went through the application process, he intently studied all sorts of military service options (we are not a family with military connections), as well as considered non-service options. He spoke to many officers and enlisted personnel in all of the branches. During the course of the year, I watched him become more focused and determined and sure of himself and the path that he wants to take. By the time the TWE showed up, he was at the point where USNA would have been 'very nice', but I think he's really more excited about what he is actually going to do -- he has enlisted in the Marine Reserves and will apply to PLC once he starts school next year. I'm personally not too thrilled about sending 'my baby' off to boot camp, but he can hardly wait, so I guess he's ready for it.
 
Congratulations on your DS finding the path he is passionate about. I truly believe that is the best ending you can ask for. Many kids zig and zag during their journey. Your DS did the homework, found his own way. CONGRATULATIONS!
 
Just curious,what should us TWEers out at our graduation/awards ceremonie for hose of us who are reapplying? Seeing as our classmates ,friends ,family,and teachers will pretty much all know of our plans but should we include them in our programs and things? The reason I ask is because I have had A LOT of people tell me thay ill never get into USNA and i won't make it in the USMC etc. And even though I didn't get in I want to make sure they understand that I'm not giving up and that they are wrong,this is far from over.
 
FUTUREMID: Not to be unkind, but I do not think it is appropriate to say you are re-applying at graduation/awards ceremonies..........it is most appropriate to SAY to those who ask "I am planning to re-apply!"
 
I agree with jennyp. This is the time that you only acknowledge what you hold in your hand at this very moment.

Trust me these ceremonies are very long to begin with, to start adding in things like my future plans will only extend the amount of time of the ceremony.

Additionally, traditionally the school has the last word in what they acknowledge. It is highly unlikely they would even acknowledge your future goals.

Our children attended small hs's with about 350 students and it was still a 2 hour + ceremony. Imagine if they added history behind each of these kids...for you it will be your intentions to re-apply, to make that fair for others they would have to add majors and/or specialty programs, i.e. honors, scholars, etc. Do the math, if you have 50 scholarship recipients, it would be about 3 minutes per person. That puts you at 150 minutes. 100 recipients and you are at a 5 hour award ceremony. That is why they just say the name and list the scholarships awarded because it cuts down time to about 90 seconds each.

As Jenny stated people who matter already know your intentions, no need to expound upon it to people who don't know you at all.

Good luck next yr.
 
Been on both sides....

Our family has been on both sides of this, the rejection and the appointments, so I know how you feel, but in our case, persistence paid off. DD was 3Q'd and Nom in the spring of 2009, but couldn't get a needed medical waiver for her eyesight. And there were tears of rejection.

After attending college for 2 years and academically ahead of schedule, she's able to graduate next spring after just 3 years of college, but she reapplied... GOT her medical waiver this time and will be USNA Class of 2015. Those were the tears of happiness!

In the meantime her brother, 1 class younger, applied last year and is now finishing up his Plebe year, Class of 2014. So he'll have his older, but younger-classman sister with him.

Reading through the many very well qualified TWE's, it's impossible to say what gets one an appointment when so many are qualified, but don't beat yourself up. It's basically a hard lesson that life isn't always fair. Turn your pursuits in another direction for the time being, and think about possibly reapplying; fortunately, it worked out in our case. The best of luck to you all.
 
For you rejectees, think of yourselves as fortunate in the sense that you get to enjoy a year or two more of normalcy and fun. You may be sorrowful now, but its more sorrowful when your life and liberties are controlled by a system that's like Big Brother and absolute government.
 
Reading through the many very well qualified TWE's, it's impossible to say what gets one an appointment when so many are qualified, but don't beat yourself up. It's basically a hard lesson that life isn't always fair. Turn your pursuits in another direction for the time being, and think about possibly reapplying; fortunately, it worked out in our case. The best of luck to you all.[/QUOTE]
 
This thread has made me sad, but a wise person once said "do your best, it's all that matters," and he was right, because if you do your best and don't get in, then there isn't anything you could have done better and shouldn't regret anything.
 
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