blueangelsMom
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let parents express frustrations and don't judge
I have tried to read and understand this thread. I see different levels of frustration, and I see offers of help when help was clearly not requested.
I also see a parent trying to let their DS or DD take care of the problem.
I don't see rude, except in some of the responses to the honest parent.
Let parents express their frustration and then do not attack them for it. If you offer help and someone does not want it, then stop offering. When you tell a parent, "WELL IF YOU CAN'T Handle this, how will you handle the real Navy?" That is the rudest remark I have seen reading the two threads dealing with this parent's frustration.
I see the most frustration in parents who really want to help their DS or DD make it through to reach their first choice. I rarely see parents or students who have locked into one thing. Look at the students here. Most have multiple colleges listed. They have plans that do require dodmets (SA or ROTC scholar) and they have plans that do not require working with dodmets. They may be sitting on thousands of dollars in scholarships that have nothing to do with a SA and/or ROTC.
Then everything is lined up, going well, until no answer from Dodmets. It can be over a remedial or a waiver. Will the remedial turn into a DQ? Both take time. So what to do? Say goodbye to non military scholarships, risking it all for ROTC or SA? Take scholarships, make hefty deposits, and continue to hope for dodmets to make up their mind? Can a DQ be done in time for appointment or military scholarships?
Schools have different time frames. Many offers come in over Christmas, and many of those offers require a quick turn around answer.
I know this frustration. I am not dealing with it now, but I have been there. There are other forums where more nightmare stories of dealing with dodmets are described.
Let people speak their minds and leave them alone. Parents try to not show too much frustration to their DS or DD. They come here to vent. You are making the drama by attacking them.
I have tried to read and understand this thread. I see different levels of frustration, and I see offers of help when help was clearly not requested.
I also see a parent trying to let their DS or DD take care of the problem.
I don't see rude, except in some of the responses to the honest parent.
Let parents express their frustration and then do not attack them for it. If you offer help and someone does not want it, then stop offering. When you tell a parent, "WELL IF YOU CAN'T Handle this, how will you handle the real Navy?" That is the rudest remark I have seen reading the two threads dealing with this parent's frustration.
I see the most frustration in parents who really want to help their DS or DD make it through to reach their first choice. I rarely see parents or students who have locked into one thing. Look at the students here. Most have multiple colleges listed. They have plans that do require dodmets (SA or ROTC scholar) and they have plans that do not require working with dodmets. They may be sitting on thousands of dollars in scholarships that have nothing to do with a SA and/or ROTC.
Then everything is lined up, going well, until no answer from Dodmets. It can be over a remedial or a waiver. Will the remedial turn into a DQ? Both take time. So what to do? Say goodbye to non military scholarships, risking it all for ROTC or SA? Take scholarships, make hefty deposits, and continue to hope for dodmets to make up their mind? Can a DQ be done in time for appointment or military scholarships?
Schools have different time frames. Many offers come in over Christmas, and many of those offers require a quick turn around answer.
I know this frustration. I am not dealing with it now, but I have been there. There are other forums where more nightmare stories of dealing with dodmets are described.
Let people speak their minds and leave them alone. Parents try to not show too much frustration to their DS or DD. They come here to vent. You are making the drama by attacking them.