Well said.
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Single mom discharged for not giving up child
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Well said.
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Non Ducor Duco,
I do not believe this statement is accurate.......
"You can marry, we have several married cadets, but if you are married you can not have a dependent, male or female...at least until after you commission."
If you are married you can have dependents. Maybe you intended to write ....'but if you are unmarried you can not have a dependent, male or female..' There are thousands of married cadets with children, some of which are female. If the cadet is married, female, and pregnant a medical leave of absence is likely as is reinstatement after the LOA and meeting other criteria for the LOA.
I do not believe this statement is accurate.......
"You can marry, we have several married cadets, but if you are married you can not have a dependent, male or female...at least until after you commission."
If you are married you can have dependents. Maybe you intended to write ....'but if you are unmarried you can not have a dependent, male or female..' There are thousands of married cadets with children, some of which are female. If the cadet is married, female, and pregnant a medical leave of absence is likely as is reinstatement after the LOA and meeting other criteria for the LOA.
Non Ducor Duco,
I do not believe this statement is accurate.......
"You can marry, we have several married cadets, but if you are married you can not have a dependent, male or female...at least until after you commission."
If you are married you can have dependents. Maybe you intended to write ....'but if you are unmarried you can not have a dependent, male or female..' There are thousands of married cadets with children, some of which are female. If the cadet is married, female, and pregnant a medical leave of absence is likely as is reinstatement after the LOA and meeting other criteria for the LOA.
If Non Ducor Duco was speaking for ROTC then maybe that's something exclusive to AFROTC. I know several cadets in AROTC that are married with children that are in the program and have commissioned in the past. Your right I've met both male and female AROTC cadets that are married with children.
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AROTC Parent,
I was told by an officer cadre member that we are allowed as cadets to marry, but may not have dependents and of the married cadets we have, none have children. It was presented as if one cannot have a dependent married or as a single parent. He said specifically, "You can get married, but you cant have a dependent"...perhaps he meant you only cant be a single parent and have a child??? It was said like a flat out no, but he could have left out specific exceptions in an effort to deliver a strong enough warning against it. My point, though, in saying that was that it is hard to believe that she could have gone what...6 or 7 semesters without knowing that dependancy would be an issue when I have already been warned to be careful and to keep them updated with any major medical status change twice in my 1st semester. When you add in the contract resignings she just doesnt have a strong case to argue ignorance with. Yes it's sad, but her pregnancy was a major change in her medical status that she knowingly hid which is grounds for dissenrollment. Think about all the documents she must have had to lie on before commissioning, did she know before she filled out her security clearance forms and lie on those too? Perhaps the rule is a little "harsh", but its there for a reason and I dont believe that the best way to deal with a rule you dont agree with is to break it and then lie about it until it is no longer physically possible to hide it any longer.
I was told by an officer cadre member that we are allowed as cadets to marry, but may not have dependents and of the married cadets we have, none have children. It was presented as if one cannot have a dependent married or as a single parent. He said specifically, "You can get married, but you cant have a dependent"...perhaps he meant you only cant be a single parent and have a child??? It was said like a flat out no, but he could have left out specific exceptions in an effort to deliver a strong enough warning against it. My point, though, in saying that was that it is hard to believe that she could have gone what...6 or 7 semesters without knowing that dependancy would be an issue when I have already been warned to be careful and to keep them updated with any major medical status change twice in my 1st semester. When you add in the contract resignings she just doesnt have a strong case to argue ignorance with. Yes it's sad, but her pregnancy was a major change in her medical status that she knowingly hid which is grounds for dissenrollment. Think about all the documents she must have had to lie on before commissioning, did she know before she filled out her security clearance forms and lie on those too? Perhaps the rule is a little "harsh", but its there for a reason and I dont believe that the best way to deal with a rule you dont agree with is to break it and then lie about it until it is no longer physically possible to hide it any longer.