The girlfriend component...

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  1. ibman377

    ibman377 Member

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    Hey ya'll,

    I've been with my girlfriend for what seems forever and we have decided that we want to stay together even though we will be 9 hours apart from each other during the academic year and possibly farther apart during summer trainings and such. I was wondering if anyone could give me (along with the others who are in this situation) the rundown of the times that I would be able to see her and how long the breaks are so that I can spend time with her. Also, what is the phone situation during the year?? Thanks for any information.

    P.S. - I know about the 2% Club and I would greatly appreciate it if the comments posted were positive since I already know the difficulty of the situation and the huge disadvantages that I face.:wink:
     
  2. Dave92390

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    I'm in the same boat man. The first step I've taken is be ready to accept the worst,,and get comfortable with it.

    Next, make the lack of communication during Beast fun with unique letters. Make it a big deal.

    During the academic year we'll have phone access.

    Besides our limited weekend passes and WEAK 4 or 5 days for thanksgiving, we're really not gonna see them man.

    I'm looking at as-- if our relationship is that good, it'll last anyway. If doesn't work like 98% of them. hehe. then so be it.

    The biggest thing---don't worry about it. LIVE now and enjoy your civ life now with your girl as much as you can.
     
  3. mom3boys

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    Cadets have walking privileges on the weekends. If you are not too far from WP, it's not unreasonable to have a Sunday together as often as your studies allow. You will have training on some Saturdays, but not all.
     
  4. America's Finest

    America's Finest USMA Cadet

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    He said he she will be 9 hours away.

    And best I can tell you is to emotionally prepare yourself for a break-up. Your mind-set should be "If she really is the one for me then she will stick with me through this. If she doesn't then she wasn't the one and I will find a better one". Think of it as a test of your feelings. I've heard of many cadets who suffer a break-up and either their grades drop dramatically and they're kicked our or they willingly leave to be with their girlfriends (who usually later find another reason to break-up). Just remember if you really love each other then this will work. It's a matter of will. If you both want it bad enough, nothing can keep you apart.

    Being in the military it's important to have a partner that will stick through the distance (you will be deployed one time or another). And always remember, it only gets easier. Plebe year is the most restrictive. Also assuming she is close to your age she will soon have the freedom to visit you and may even attend a college near you.
     
  5. WAMom68

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    My son has had the same girlfriend since 10th grade. They are still together and got engaged over Yearling Winter Weekend. It helps that she goes to college out on Long Island so they get to see each other fairly often.

    For leave you get 4 days at Thanksgiving, about 2 weeks for Christmas, 10 days for spring break, and 2-4 weeks for summer leave (depends upon what summer assignments you have). There are also some 3 day weekends like Labor Day and President's Day.

    After Beast you will have your room phone and cell phone to use whenever you have the time. There is no cost for long distance calls from your room phone.

    If you are both committed you can make a long distance relationship work. I personally know a cadet in the class of 2010 whose girlfriend is here in WA. They started dating in high school and are still together.
     
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    America's Finest: Dave's user ID has him in Massachusettes...I was responding to him. I responded via PM to the first poster, as his situation is different.
     
  7. America's Finest

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    Gotcha! :thumb:
     
  8. ibman377

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    100% correct with the posts. if its meant to be then we can make it work easily. Thanks again for the messages!
     
  9. Sedrider

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    fudge

    im in the same boat=\

    it sucks, i know we'll make through it.
    just dont want to.

    but it's worth it.

    and i wont let my relationship problems, if any, get in the way of my ultimate goal.

    these posts helped alot.

    thanks all.
     

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