Thoughts on my future now

Discussion in 'ROTC' started by MattP, Feb 27, 2012.

  1. MattP

    MattP Member

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    Hello all,
    I have posted only a few times, mostly with questions on "what to do now" type things, because of an unfortunate lapse in judgement on my and a couple of my friends parts one day in late October. I am still dealing with the effects of that day now, four months later in the court system, and in my daily life. Then and now, I couldnt believe how stupid I was, but more so I couldnt believe how I lost everything I wanted for my post high school life. I went from going to the USNA summer seminar to being arrested, in a couple of months. I feel like a middle aged man looking back on things he wished he did/didnt do in life. But the fact is, I am now 18, with life still ahead of me. I dont want to be that middle aged man one day. I am looking at the positive side of things, even though that is very hard considering everything use to be much more positive. However, I learned alot from the experience. I now truely understand right from wrong in daily life, and to not judge people no matter what I hear because I now know just because I heard a rumor, I do not know the persons whole story. This event changed my entire perspective on life for the most part. I regained my Catholic faith through all of this. Going to confession for the first time in a decade, with all of this on my mind, was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I now appreciate much of the things I use to take for granted. Even with how tragic the event was in regards to my future, I hope it always stays close on my mind to remind me of these things.
    Now looking at my future, I have decided to accept my offer of admission to what has been my dream non-military (USNA) university, the University of Rochester and most likely study International Relations. I know it is a perfect fit for me. It was my number one school for my NROTC application, but honestly, I didnt feel like I was going to get into this school. Everything was looking bad for my future for a while, hell, even the local Marine Corps recruiter wont talk to me about enlistment because apparently for the corps, even if a felony is dropped to a misdemeanor, it is considered a felony and bars enlistment. But when I got the acceptance letter to U of R earlier this month, I took it as a sign that there is still hope for myself. Even though I could of been going to this $40,000 a year university for free, I consider myself lucky to still have the opportunity to attend. Even if I graduate with over $50,000 in loans, I did what I really wanted to do with the options I had. I will not be kicking myself later in life for going to a cheaper school that I really did not want to attend. I will still look into joining the school's NROTC unit, if they would even let me with my situation. Just judging this with how the Marine recruiter dealt with me, they probably will not. Even though my entire life I thought the military was all I wanted, maybe this is all part of God's plan for me, to find another calling. I dont know. But I do know that the Navy is missing out on a much more mature person.
    This rant is mostly for myself, to just write my feelings out where people can see it. But I feel this can also be used by others here who maybe did not get the scholarship or did not get into the school they dreamed of, to show them that there is always still hope for yourself.
    -Matt
     
  2. kinnem

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    Good attitude Matt. Glad you learned from this and are using it to make a difference in your life. You are certainly not the only person who ever found themselves in this situation. It sounds like you plan to make the best of it.

    I would also suggest that you print this out, or write it out somewhere so you will always be able to refer to it and remind yourself of this low point and the decisions you made from it. I honestly don't know whether NROTC will take you or not. Perhaps someone else will chime in with the policy. But if they do take you, at some point you will need to disclose all this. When you do, one thing that will work to your advantage is to explain what you learned form it and how it changed your life/attitude. Perhaps having this on hand will help remind you of some point you might otherwise miss.

    Good luck in your endeavors at University of Rochester. :thumb:
     
  3. OhioSoccerMom

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    So proud of you for humbling yourself and finding your Faith again. Not to be too gushy, but God wants us to come to Him always... when we've messed up, when we've triumphed, when we have no idea what to do next! And Sometimes we have to fall down and learn the hard way, pick ourselves back up, and begin again. Somtimes that's how we come to appreciate the blessings we're given. (Hint: As you put your pieces back together, and things start going well, don't forget to thank the One who helped you put it back together again!! We do nothing without God's grace and favor!)

    This lapse in judgement that you've had could have really lead to a long line of mis-steps. Good for you for being able to see that you've made a mistake, even if it turns out to be a BIG mistake, and not letting that ONE MOMENT dictate a)who you are, and b) what the rest of your life will look like. Sounds like you took your eye off the ball for a minute, but you've stepped back up to the plate and are ready to go again!

    Kinnem offers good advice: print a hard copy of this "rant" as you call it, to remind yourself of this moment. Remembering what this felt like will serve you well, so that you won't take your eye off the ball again! Good luck and God bless!
     
  4. bsherman92

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    That was a good read. You sound like you know where you're going. Good luck in the future.

    Just some strategic advice: if it turns out your recruiter is not willing to put your through MEPS and help you enlist into the Corps, go see another one. Of course, upon your first meeting, you should come clean as it's important to help clear up anything that might impede a recruit's enlistment before any paperwork gets started, but a good recruiter will go through with it anyway and see how it turns out, as long as you're qualified medically, academically, and physically. I don't know where you live but I'm hoping there is more than one Armed Forces Career Centers in the local area. Same goes for NROTC; you should mention very soon that you hold a misdemeanor charge upon your first meeting with the recruiting officer. Make it clear you want in on the program despite the criminal charge, and if, ultimately, you are not allowed enrollment with the unit, look into a cross-town enrollment with another NROTC unit (Sorry, I don't know much about URochester and its surrounding schools regarding NROTC. Perhaps RIT?). Your third and most drastic option is to see an OCS recruiter/OSO for any of the Navy or Marine Corps officer programs: PLC, BDCP (Baccalaureate Degree Completion Program), Navy NUPOC, Marine Corps OCC, and Navy OCS, among others. Good luck.
     
  5. MattP

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    Thank you for the responses. A hard copy was printed in a small font and is now in my wallet; that was a great idea. I definitely took my eye off the ball like one of you said...but I am not back on the plate, focused. If anyone else has any comments, especially on NROTC's policy towards people with my situation, please post. Again, thank you all for your responses, they mean alot
    -Matt
     
  6. NorwichDad

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    Good luck Matt.

    Life is along haul. Especially at your age. Understand there will be victories and defeats. This will make you stronger.
     

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