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Discussion in 'Naval Academy - USNA' started by Miidaangg, Apr 25, 2009.

  1. Miidaangg

    Miidaangg Member

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    I have just told, in an email, my father, whom I haven't seen or talked to in about 8 months and who is currently residing in Jordan, about the Naval Academy.
    I haven't told him I accepted yet all I told him was that I'm thinking about it.
    I'm afraid of what he's going to say or do if I choose to go.
    My mother is supporting me full on but I feel my father wouldn't support me at all...
    I feel like I want him a part of my life no matter what I choose. But my father has old Arabic values.. SO I don't know what he will do!
    I hope he will accept my decision!!!
     
  2. Mom1315

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    I hope for all the best for you! I hope that your father can get past his "reservations" and support you in your decision. After all, it is a decision you have not come to lightly...you have been through a discernment process almost as long if not more difficult that the one a priest candidate might go through. The application process alone is one that cannot be taken lightly. Plead your case with yor dad, listen to what he has to say, make your own decision in the end. He will respect you more for it. You have been appointed to the USNA, you are a remarkable young woman, he knows or will come to realize that! Some times it takes parents a long time to come to grips with our children's decisions and choices, so be patient and respectful, but follow your heart. After all, you are going to an awesome college, you are serving your country and you have a bright future ahead of you. Think of those parents who have to come to grips with their children's bad choices: to have babies at 16(or younger!), to get married (before college), or to lead a life of crime, do drugs, etc. Your dad may not agree with your choice, but I hope, as you do, that he will come to accept it. He is your father, I hope you are surprised and he not only accepts, but applauds you! I am sure in his own way he is very proud of the woman you have become!
     
  3. HANNAH1212

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    My dad is Palestinian so I know what you're going through! My parents raised me to have Islamic values which in essence doesn't really promote the independence and individuality of women. Thats just how my dad was raised, I don't blame him. So when I first mentioned USNA he was all "what?!?!" but I mentioned that the United States has done him a great service and I would just be repaying it and that in America it's a symbol of pride to get in to the naval academy. Also, you could get your BGO to email him--mine was quite accustomed to dealing with distraught fathers whose daughters wanted to be in the military. My dad eventually embraced the idea and is now very proud...but it took a lot of getting used to. There was a point when he thought girls shouldn't go to college at all.
     
  4. Miidaangg

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    Wow really! I thought it was just me.
    He still hasn't responded to the email.
    My parents aren't together so it would've been easier to hide it from him you know but I didn't want to..
    But my dad wants me to go to college.
    He would just rather me go in Jordan. But that's not what I want.. I don't know how my dad would ever embrace the idea of me being in the military..
    This is going to be hard because regardless I still want him to accept me..
     
  5. Miidaangg

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    Also thank you for the concern and the support PMlutton!
    I hope all goes well.
     
  6. Mindy G

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    I hope your Dad comes around. However be sure that you have lots of support from people you do not even know. Follow your heart and you can not go wrong. I am sure that your Dad is proud of you evenif he can not admit it to himself at this moment in time.
     
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    Hang in there!
    I've got a lot of flak from my mom's relatives (who consider themselves prudently "anti-war")-- especially because I want to go Marines.

    See you on I-Day!
    oooh, another local!
     
  8. Miidaangg

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    hopefully my dad doesn't go berserk!
    isn't there supposed to be a picnic for MD appointees before Iday??
     
  9. bmorris244

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    yeah, i think you're right! but i can't find the email/paperwork anywhere...
    do you have a date?
     
  10. Mom1315

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    We are in MD also but have not received any communication about a picnic at all. If I find out something, I will let you know. I suspect communication will come out after the May 1 deadline.
     
  11. peskemom

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    welcome aboard miidaang!

    Interesting you note your father is in Jordan. My Second Class mid has been in Amman for the entire semester studying abroad for USNA. Her roommate is a female Arabic West Point Cadet from South Dakota. Talk about THAT unusual combination.

    Clashes of cultures and family expectations are as old as the human race. As a parent, an AMERICAN CHRISTIAN parent, and one who's own husband is a USNA graduate, I STILL had a hard time dealing with my daughter's desire to go to the Naval Academy. Frankly, it is not something that crosses your mind when you look at your brand new, precious gift from God baby that is not even wiped clean yet. "Oh, I can't wait until she graduates a midshipman" simply isn't in one's brain waves. :)

    Honor your father by being respectful always to him, even in email. Listen to his concerns, his doubts, his wishes. And then do your best to navigate your heart through the rapids of your parent's support/lack of support. Ultimately, at least in our wonderful country, everyone is the master of their destiny - regardless of sex, religion, or nationality. That is the awesome gift of living in our democratic republic.

    God bless and guide you as your undertake this journey ahead.

    Keep posting!
     
  12. Mom1315

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    Just got some info. on MD parents Club picnic for appointees. Looks like 14 or 28 June. The parents club will contact MD appointees after they receive the list from USNA...AFTER May 1 which makes sense. Days are moving very fast!
     
  13. Miidaangg

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    Thank you very much for all your concerns.
    My father I believe is living in Amman right now.. It has been two days and he still has not emailed me back. Granted he is busy with opening his new tech school, however, I feel like he isn't writing back because he's angry.
    But I have already made my decision to go to USNA no matter what obstacles.

    I guess we will be meeting all MDers at the picnic though!
     

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