Alternatively their neighbor has screwed himself out of these opportunities by his performance to date in high school academics, athletics and extracurriculars compounded by his lack of preparation for his interview process. Welcome to grown up life- the people who look like they have a lot of potential are usually sought after by multiple sources and they shouldn't feel guilty about that. In fact they should feel pretty good about the hard work and preparation that has resulted in multiple offers. It certainly isn't their fault that someone else has not done as well and rather than being selfish on their part- it seems rather selfish and self centered to resent their success.
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Not only that, ppl should realize that this
is in fact the time to be selfish. This is the time where you are no longer a child with a large margin for error and a parent to take over cleaning up your mess. Mistakes now cost you time and opportunity, or in other words, money. With the stakes being so high, it should not be considered shameful to cast a wide net. I personally didn't know about the service academies until it was too late, but I heard about the other ROTC scholarships in time to apply for all. I didn't though. I wanted Air Force and no other branch. I knew what would suite me and what wouldn't. For me it wasn't about being an officer, it was about being an officer in the Air Force. And that's Ok too. Life is a witch, it's not fair, if you don't look out for you, no one out there will.
That's not to say anyone should step on toes or be malicious or anything, but they should go for what they want and take as many opportunities as they can. One can apply for all branches or just one, either is ok as long as you can live with it. Ppl like to believe that something was taken away from them in competitions because it displaces blame, but that thought process doesn't change the reality, it only makes them bitter and angry. They should instead be honest with themselves and look at how they could have been more competitive. The kid that won out must have had something that you didn't, or perhaps they were able to sell themselves better than you were. If you succeed in the end, ultimately it's your fault, if you don't, then it's still ultimately your fault. It is up to you whether your efforts were something to be ashamed of (i.e you half-did it, were not on top of things, played around with school) or not(i.e. you gave it your all, the circumstances were not right, you did everything you knew how to do on your end). Just pick yourself up, work on improving, and go at it again
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