Quick question, are you an appointee, or just an applicant at this point? I can't believe that you are a cadet currently because if you were you would be able to find the info at the AFA.
Either way I think you are putting the cart before the horse. Some reality aspects to think about.
1. If an applicant or an appointee you have 4 YEARS before this is an issue/factor.
~~ If she/he enlists it will probably be for 4 years. They could leave the service at that point.
2. Do you know the group that cadets marrying their HS sweethearts belong to?
~~ The 2% club. That is because only 2% of cadets entering any SA marry their HS sweetheart.
Not saying you won't be a member of that club, just saying the odds are against you, and again, why I think you are putting the cart before the horse.
3. Joint military marriages are not easy even when it is between the same ranks.
~~ They will try to station the couple together, but only guarantee the same theatre. We have had many friends that as married. Couples PCS at different times, or was assigned to different bases.
~~~~ Jeannie Flynn Lovitt us the Wing Queen at Seymour for F15Es, her DH is at Shaw in the 16.
Hornet's DH is an A10 pilot while he is at Del Rio.
Fencer and my DS winged together out of Del Rio. DS got married last week to his college sweetheart. Fencers DS will get married next month. They both commissioned in 12. In a 2 year span, fencers DS was casual at the AFA until UPT, and will boith do four TDYs before they PCS to Dyess Jan 2015..
1. IFS
2. Water survival
3. SERE
4. C130J RTU.
Our DSs wife is not military, she will join him in Little Rock for the 5 month RTU. Fencers DIL is an AFA grad. They have purchased a home in Abilene. She is assigned to Dyess currently. They will live their first 5 months of marriage in two different states. While he was at UPT she was stationed at another base. They are lucky that she is a Maintainer on the C130, because had he got a C5 to Charleston or a C 17 to Dover, things could have been different regarding how soon they could be together.
Again, I am just trying to illustrate how many hoops you will go through if you want to go rated, and how as lovely the idea of marrying your HS sweetheart is, it is best to place your attention towards commissioning and the immediate life after commissioning for your career than wondering the process four years from now.
Caveat, my assumption is you are not at the AFA currently.
OBTW, I know several AF spouses that were enlisted and married officers. The enlisted member in all of these cases gave up their career.