Perhaps this isn't the correct forum for this, but I'd like to vent a little.
A couple of nights ago we had awards night for our DS's graduating class. DS was presented with the big check for his NROTC Marine Option scholarship at the beginning of the ceremony - the only ROTC scholarship this year at his school. Later, students were recognized one by one in alphabetical order for all other awards. When it came to his turn, DS was recognized for NHS, several academic, leadership and athletic awards, several small local scholarships and his ROTC scholarship. Very proud moment for his parents.
The next day someone approached DW and asked, "can I ask you why (DS) received the other scholarships if he has full ROTC scholarship?" DW, who is more civilized than I am, calmly replied that ROTC doesn't cover room and board and he will have other expenses for books and supplies. The person went on to ask "doesn't he get a stipend for that stuff?". The whole tone of the questions was "why is your son taking away scholarships from other kids if he already has a "free" ride? This person also knows that our DD is at USNA on her "free" ride. I found the line of questioning to be pretty bold, rude and insulting and probably wouldn't have handled it as well as DW did. We've heard other less rude, but similar comments from well meaning people who either don't understand or fully appreciate what these kids have signed up for. Is it nice, and do we appreciate, that our kids will have minimal college debt? Absolutely. But this "free" ride isn't free for them. This is what they want to do, and no one is forcing them to choose the path they have chosen, but it would be nice to hear more congratulations for what they have achieved and appreciation for their service commitment and less of the rude and insensitive comments.
OK, I'm done now...
A couple of nights ago we had awards night for our DS's graduating class. DS was presented with the big check for his NROTC Marine Option scholarship at the beginning of the ceremony - the only ROTC scholarship this year at his school. Later, students were recognized one by one in alphabetical order for all other awards. When it came to his turn, DS was recognized for NHS, several academic, leadership and athletic awards, several small local scholarships and his ROTC scholarship. Very proud moment for his parents.
The next day someone approached DW and asked, "can I ask you why (DS) received the other scholarships if he has full ROTC scholarship?" DW, who is more civilized than I am, calmly replied that ROTC doesn't cover room and board and he will have other expenses for books and supplies. The person went on to ask "doesn't he get a stipend for that stuff?". The whole tone of the questions was "why is your son taking away scholarships from other kids if he already has a "free" ride? This person also knows that our DD is at USNA on her "free" ride. I found the line of questioning to be pretty bold, rude and insulting and probably wouldn't have handled it as well as DW did. We've heard other less rude, but similar comments from well meaning people who either don't understand or fully appreciate what these kids have signed up for. Is it nice, and do we appreciate, that our kids will have minimal college debt? Absolutely. But this "free" ride isn't free for them. This is what they want to do, and no one is forcing them to choose the path they have chosen, but it would be nice to hear more congratulations for what they have achieved and appreciation for their service commitment and less of the rude and insensitive comments.
OK, I'm done now...