First, let me assure you that the role of being a BGO is to remain open-minded, unbiased and level headed and to rate each candidate on an individual basis (candidates do not receive a score, but rather are ranked percentage wise and the interview must cover specific topics).
Being a BGO I have been in the position of also being the parent of a candidate, not once, but twice.
Rest assured that as a BGO we are not assigned to our own children. Are they competing with the candidates who are assigned to us? Absolutely. IMHO the position of BGO should hold the same character traits of honesty, integrity and character that we expect of the midshipmen. We do not have access to our child's records or interviews. Just like you, we must wait for our children to share information with us.
Reflecting upon this, it can be even more pressure for the candidate whose parent is a BGO.
Do we as BGO wait in anticipation and ride the same winding road as the rest of you during the application process? You bet! The only difference is that we are hoping that ALL of our applicants, as well as our son/daughter is offered an appointment. The day we find out an exceptional candidate is not offered an appointment disappoints us as much as it does the candidate and their family. And the day we find out one has been accepted we jump for joy right along with you!