Hi beaver1,
My daughter (who did not receive an LOA) and I had an interesting discussion last night. She asked a similar question when a fellow Aimster texted her with news of his LOA: "what does this say about me?"
Harvard developmental psychologist Howard Gardner noted: "the whole course of human development can be viewed as a continuing decline in egocentrism."
Competition, in its many iterations, will be part of any service academy culture. I believe it is important, for one who aspires to be part of that environment, to continually work on developing a strong sense of self-worth and to view the entire process as a way to continue improving oneself: academically, physically, and spiritually. We are all unique individuals, with strengths and weaknesses. Each one of us will contribute our unique talents to the optimum functioning of the whole.
As far as the LOAs, in our discusison we came to the conclusion that if the USCGA needs them as a tool to ensure an excellent incoming class, they should use them. My daughter was able to shift her perspective after the discussion. Like you, she intends to continue to work hard to be appointed to the class of 2014!
Cheers and good luck to you as well. Stay positive! Stay focused!