Poster2025
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We have responded (assisting our DS as he is under 18) to DODMERB request for information regarding our DS's off and on therapy during elementary, some middle, and briefly in high school. He has now been DQ'd and honestly, we are sick that choices we made for him years ago, are now impacting his application.
We put our DS in social groups and counseling as he had a very small circle of friends and we wanted to make sure all was ok. I was determined that he was going to have a better social experience than me, so we were very proactive in having him work with individuals and groups to ensure he had the social skills to be successful. He didn't feel they were necessary, but we figured it can't hurt. We thought we were doing the responsible thing.
He had no other indications of any issues, very strong academics, athletics, EC's and extensive leadership especially in the last couple years, and yes, now he has lots of friends. Now we see in the paperwork (we were completely honest and forthcoming with DODMERB) that there is a diagnosis code of "Adjustment Disorder" or "Adjustment Disorder with Anxiety" (R230) He provided the documents from the doctors to DODMERB, but he did not provide any background information or explanation since they didn't ask for one. He was very careful to follow their request exactly.
Now we just wait, in the hopes that a waiver is requested on his behalf, and that it is successful. Our DS will reach out to DODMERB on his own if he chooses to with some questions about the process.
I was just looking to connect to others that might have been in a similar situation, and maybe have some advice on how to navigate this moment as a parent. I've never felt the weight of a parenting decision quite like this. Thank you.
We put our DS in social groups and counseling as he had a very small circle of friends and we wanted to make sure all was ok. I was determined that he was going to have a better social experience than me, so we were very proactive in having him work with individuals and groups to ensure he had the social skills to be successful. He didn't feel they were necessary, but we figured it can't hurt. We thought we were doing the responsible thing.
He had no other indications of any issues, very strong academics, athletics, EC's and extensive leadership especially in the last couple years, and yes, now he has lots of friends. Now we see in the paperwork (we were completely honest and forthcoming with DODMERB) that there is a diagnosis code of "Adjustment Disorder" or "Adjustment Disorder with Anxiety" (R230) He provided the documents from the doctors to DODMERB, but he did not provide any background information or explanation since they didn't ask for one. He was very careful to follow their request exactly.
Now we just wait, in the hopes that a waiver is requested on his behalf, and that it is successful. Our DS will reach out to DODMERB on his own if he chooses to with some questions about the process.
I was just looking to connect to others that might have been in a similar situation, and maybe have some advice on how to navigate this moment as a parent. I've never felt the weight of a parenting decision quite like this. Thank you.