Correct. Against the rules, and this is a big, all-services rule, not a pesky little local regulation. "Get around the rules" is a way of thinking to be approached with extreme caution by any officer or officer candidate. What you are looking for is an exception, which means it must be truly exceptional in circumstances, and not put the Service in any danger of setting an unwanted precedent. As in, if an exception was made for you, how many others will now expect the same? Officials who can grant exceptions to Service-wide rules are way up the chain of command, at the 30,000 foot level. You are at sea level. Starting a conversation with the AOC leading with how to get around rules relating to your personal life...well, that would not be my first choice of conversation topic.
I realize running smack into what seems a human-unfriendly regulation can be baffling to those not yet used to military discipline, regulations and expectations of conduct very different from the civilian world.
May I gently suggest you just wait and see how things work out over time? In the meantime, edit your social media and keep private things private. While you are figuring out your path, do not give others the opportunity to report any prohibited behavior. Ultimately, your actions and priorities are up to you, and you will choose your path and, as an adult, own any consequences.