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I am impressed to hear how many of you parents really stepped back and let the child run the process. I will be honest - I have not. I have been 100% "in the trenches" with my son over the last 3 months working on this.
Applying to a service academy strikes me as one of the most bureaucratically intensive exercises most people will ever deal with in their life. The elaborate array of submission requirements, forms with exacting instructions and no second chance deadlines is a recipe for disaster for someone not schooled in the art of paperwork karate.
RHolt Dad. I’m glad you’re involved 100%. Just be sure your DS is also involved 100%. In the end, he will own it. If successful, from I-Day R-Day your DS is all on his own. But I agree the entire process in daunting for the child and parents. Child today, but will quickly reform and become an adult on the first week of July. And he will be reminded of that 24/7.
As I was raising my DS, I can’t help but reflect back to that movie “Up.” Don’t be that Dad in the movie who’s never there for his son, “Russell,” to the end. If you are able and can do, do what is right for your DS while you can. But let him gradually do the heavy lifting while you be his constant wingman. I see no shame in helping more at times when necessary as our children are multi-tasking many things, being tested at the most extreme challenges in their lives. I see it as a balance like everything in life. Us parents are also gradually transforming to let go! Not easy for many but we too are transforming.