How do Cadets (especially Plebes) find dates to balls?

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I've been appointed to the class of 2023 and I've recently been wondering something: If Plebes are restricted to campus most of the time, and have just been flown miles and miles from home away from all their old contacts, how do they manage to find civilian dates for the balls they have their first year?(Excluding, of course, those who date other cadets and the 2% club.)

Keep in mind, I'm not talking about dating in general, just finding someone to go to the dances with. Is it all just Tinder and setups by friends or is there more to this that I don't know?

Thanks.
 
You are soon to meet 1200 or so of the finest young people in the world. You will endure the same trials and hardships. You will have a whole new network of friends. These friends know many other fine people. You will be happily surprised with the new vistas in your world.

That being said... For several months at least, social networking just might not be foremost in your priorities. Not saying it won't, just pointing out that it's just possibly won't be. You may well be attending the Hops with your "Battle Buddies."

All the best!
 
You go stag or you take someone’s sister or the friend of someone’s sister. #1 never had a date until 100th Night and then she was just one of his cadet friends. #3 seems on track to go stag to everything. So if you do not have a girlfriend you
Might meet a girl at USMA (cadating) or you might hope for a roommate w a pretty sister.
 
Or if your GF lives 1,500 miles away, you try to find a way to have her come out. And what a fun event for her! But if it doesn’t work, you join the many who don’t attend, and have a fun evening other ways.
 
justdoit19 said:
Or if your GF lives 1,500 miles away, you try to find a way to have her come out. And what a fun event for her! But if it doesn’t work, you join the many who don’t attend, and have a fun evening other ways.
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No... you go stag and have a fun evening anyway.
 
Not really sure where you heard that you would need a date for balls here. There's only one thing plebe year at the Academy, and that's Plebe Parent Weekend during the spring. While some people do bring dates, it's not the norm. Every I know who brought a date was already dating them. Otherwise it's in the name of the weekend: "Parent." Just spend that time with your parents. Trust me it will not be weird, and they will appreciate it.

The only other ball I could maybe think of it a parent's club ball at home over Christmas leave. You don't need to bring a date to that. In fact unless your parents want to go, then I would suggest you don't go. I know very few people who have actually had fun at those.

Those are the only two events you could even possibly bring a date to during plebe year and neither is really meant for you to bring one to. Once you become a yearling and so on you will bring a date for class events, but don't worry about that for now. Nearly every one ends up bringing someone one way or another. Finding a date for a ball should be the least of your concerns.

-A current firstie
 
kd8fdi said:
The only other ball I could maybe think of it a parent's club ball at home over Christmas leave. You don't need to bring a date to that. In fact unless your parents want to go, then I would suggest you don't go. I know very few people who have actually had fun at those.
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This. Our local parents club appears to exist for the sole purpose of raising funds for the extremely expensive annual all-academies ball, and every cadet we know, including our son, gripes about feeling pressured to attend and would rather be running the IOCT with pneumonia than have to show up one more time dressed in the Nutcracker suit. Very few bring dates; why bore a person you'd like to impress? Our Firstie has attended formal events stag, with friend's date's friends/sisters, or he has brought out a young lady from home. He is also flying out a different young lady to graduation. We can't wait to meet her. :)
 
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