DSmom_in_IL
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When we lived in a house with dramatically unequal bedrooms plus a walkout basement bedroom, there was no way I was sleeping on a different floor from a kid (fear of fire), nor giving them easy come & go access (under 18). Made our two lads share. We moved just as the eldest was departing for college, and ironically moved into a house with enough “equal” bedrooms for each. Eldest kept saying “I don’t care, I don’t live here any more”. Guess who’s boomeranged back (briefly)? Now he won’t trade “his” room!
If you & the spousal unit are on the same page why not discuss with your nearly adult kids to air it all out? Could help set everyone’s expectations.
While I’m not a fan of the “shrine”, I know I stopped seeing my childhood room as mine by the end of freshman year. It isn’t “wrong” to let the transition happen naturally or to bow to family spatial needs. How long is freshman winter break? Is that a good time for eldest to prepare it for the next occupant? Might be a good compromise.
Let us know how this drama ends!
Thank you, I will keep you posted!