I have been a long-time lurker and have found theses forums to be invaluable since my child began the application process. I'm only posting now because of how our situation has ended.
From the beginning, I was taken by surprise that my child even wanted to go to the Academy. It just didn't seem like a "good fit", and several times last fall I wanted to start a thread to see if I was the only parent out there who felt like this was all-wrong for my child. It seemed like my child was more motivated for the wrong reasons rather than truly wanting a military college experience that would lead to a military career. Many times my child would even say that the lifestyle at the Academy was dreadful and would probably be hated, but at least there would be a guaranteed career at the end.
As the process went on, and we tended to Plans B, C, and D, it became clearer to me that those alternative plans were far more exciting for my child than the Plan A of the Academy. And I believe my child started to see that as well, as gradually plans B, C, and D were now tied with Plan A. By late winter, plan A started to fade in the background.
When an the Appointment offer came, my child immediately knew that this was no longer wanted. While we were not surprised, we were still very upset because the opportunity that was going to be declined was so great. The thought of what was once Plan A was now looked upon as a definite No, and it still makes me sad. Which is strange because all along I never thought it was right. I'm not sure why I get so emotional over this. The good part is that the offer will now go to somebody who wants this so badly that he/she will feel they won the lottery once given the opportunity.
There are so many things I wish we could go back and change. Looking forward, I hope that my child does not regret this decision. I hope we don't hope we don't spend our lives wondering what could have been.. Time will tell, but in the meantime, we are excited for my child's future. Great opportunities await, and there are bound to be some that are much better suited for my child.
I share all this as a cautionary tale. I It would be wise to really figure out the motivations of your children before going through this process. I have known families whose children ultimately drop out of a service academy and they all seem to have one theme in common - they never wanted it for the right reasons. I believe that vast majority of applicants really want this. But many don't. Or maybe they really do want to be an Officer in the military but would be much better suited for ROTC. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But leave the Academy opportunities for those who really want it.
My sincere wish for the Class of 2026 - seize this opportunity. Great things await you. For those pursuing other avenues - just having gotten this far shows you have a lot of grit and fortitude. You will be successful in anything you pursue.
From the beginning, I was taken by surprise that my child even wanted to go to the Academy. It just didn't seem like a "good fit", and several times last fall I wanted to start a thread to see if I was the only parent out there who felt like this was all-wrong for my child. It seemed like my child was more motivated for the wrong reasons rather than truly wanting a military college experience that would lead to a military career. Many times my child would even say that the lifestyle at the Academy was dreadful and would probably be hated, but at least there would be a guaranteed career at the end.
As the process went on, and we tended to Plans B, C, and D, it became clearer to me that those alternative plans were far more exciting for my child than the Plan A of the Academy. And I believe my child started to see that as well, as gradually plans B, C, and D were now tied with Plan A. By late winter, plan A started to fade in the background.
When an the Appointment offer came, my child immediately knew that this was no longer wanted. While we were not surprised, we were still very upset because the opportunity that was going to be declined was so great. The thought of what was once Plan A was now looked upon as a definite No, and it still makes me sad. Which is strange because all along I never thought it was right. I'm not sure why I get so emotional over this. The good part is that the offer will now go to somebody who wants this so badly that he/she will feel they won the lottery once given the opportunity.
There are so many things I wish we could go back and change. Looking forward, I hope that my child does not regret this decision. I hope we don't hope we don't spend our lives wondering what could have been.. Time will tell, but in the meantime, we are excited for my child's future. Great opportunities await, and there are bound to be some that are much better suited for my child.
I share all this as a cautionary tale. I It would be wise to really figure out the motivations of your children before going through this process. I have known families whose children ultimately drop out of a service academy and they all seem to have one theme in common - they never wanted it for the right reasons. I believe that vast majority of applicants really want this. But many don't. Or maybe they really do want to be an Officer in the military but would be much better suited for ROTC. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But leave the Academy opportunities for those who really want it.
My sincere wish for the Class of 2026 - seize this opportunity. Great things await you. For those pursuing other avenues - just having gotten this far shows you have a lot of grit and fortitude. You will be successful in anything you pursue.