This note is to those parents with no military nor Academy experience. I hope I am not overstepping my bounds, but I was there in 2013. The gorilla on your backs for the last several months is gone. Relax- for the nest few days. He returns when INDOC begins and you will anxiously wait for that first call. INDOC is more mental than physical and most will probably handle it better than you. Don't worry, it is the easiest part of the four years. Then the trifecta of academic, regimental, and physical rigors begins. Do not harp on grades.He/she who really wants it will make it. For those of you who have been stressed out, more is on the way. The institution will do and order things which make absolutely no sense to you. On top of that, your DS/DD lives by written and unwritten codes which are not familiar to you and often are counter-intuitive to what you think is proper. Administration does NOT want to hear from you. Period. If you need to vent- and this is the real point of my message- there are parent groups out there made up of wonderful, experienced people (KPmom2013 on this site for example) who will listen and explain things to you. I thank the good Lord for one of these folks, an alum and parent, who talked me down from the precipice at various times, day and night, on a good number of occasions. The next time you see DD/DS, you'll be amazed. A child no longer. Congrats and best wishes.
^^^^times a hundred. @Hockey10 is right on with great advice as usual. To parents of appointees, your kid is no longer a kid. You have helped him or her along this far. What an accomplishment to achieve this honor. I can guarantee that there will be hard times ahead for your Plebe Candidate / Plebe / Midshipman. Be a safe place for him or her to vent, but DO NOT be that parent who attempts to help fix whatever problem he or she is having. Let them handle it. During that first nine days of INDOC, know that no news is good news. The academy knows how to do what they do. Come parents weekend, prepare to be amazed. If you need a place to work things through, feel free to PM me or any other experienced parent on this forum, and and we will try to help you down off the ledge. Now go give your kid another hug and tell him/ her how proud you are of this accomplishment.
Please excuse my excessive verbosity but soon you will hear things you never expected. Some 4.5 GPA, 2 sport captains, etc. will be happy with C's. Some will get A's. Relax, it works out in the end. The first big night out- pizza and Sprite on the barracks roof. Break up with love of life. Fire fighting. Plebe knowledge and etc. But Sea Term is where it's at. Pirate waters, penguins, freak hurricanes, navigating a tanker loaded with jet full through the Straits of Gibralta at midnight, thick fog, ships within 1/4 mile in all directions (captain there but not saying a word,) getting lost in the bowels of a ship, machining a new part (no hardware store in the middle of the Pacific,) horse meat in Korea and more soothing information. You wanna lose sleep- how about a 20 year old Jewish girl dong a shore based internship in a Middle East country not named Israel. But then there's the meteor showers and millions of stars in the perfectly black skies, the hundreds of eagles over Dutch Harbor and, well you get the picture. At the end I am reminded of an old song, "It must be rain drops falling ...." when that bell is rung and you see the blue tube.