A different perspective as you prepare for Induction Day

Brawny77 said:
Honestly I think adjusting to the academics in the fall were harder on him than plebe summer.
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+1 --its not just academics, but whole lot of factors that make Plebe Year harder than Plebe Summer. Adjusting to college level academics is difficult for many, but the demand on time is a big factor. Time management and prioritization are critical.
 
Learning Time Management is a big one. Living at home last year and taking the bus to school with the change to your routine and that you are on your own is also big one.
 
So I really needed this the most today. I reread this thread tree times. My DD is 7 days away for IDay. Last night, we talked about her biggest worries. Now I can't sleep. Just who I am dont judge;). She attended a private university last year and made the decision to apply to USNA late last fall. USNA IS WHERE SHE BELONGS FOR SURE and she needed to figure that out on her own.
These are her fears. That she is not at the top of her physical fitness. She was a 4 year varsity soccer player but has not had that much physical exercise in a year. She can run 3-4 miles in 8 mins. and can do the min push ups and what not but she does not feel confident.
Academically- She has not taken Chem or Physics since her Jr. year in high school or had cal in over a year. She is feel rusty there. She was a 4.0 last year in college but had not STEM classes.
I am going to share this thread with her and I believe it will help her. Now on to me.
Just feeling so nervous for her. My heart knows she will be great but gosh, my head will not get out of the way. Kind words would help me sleep tonight or I will have to resort to an old fashion.......AGAIN.
 
She will be fine! She got accepted therefore she has what it takes. There will be good and bad days. Take it one meal at a time and take nothing personally. As to you... just remember she is being well taken care of and she chose this path (even after a year at a civilian university). Trust me... if I made it thru USNA... so can she!
 
NOLA -- don't worry. DD will do fine . The truth is , from what I see on these pages, this appears to be tougher on the Parents than it is the Plebes. Its an interesting perspective that I never even thought about when my parents put me on the plane 30+ years ago. I've sent two daughters off to civilian schools, so I have a feeling what its like from Parents perspective Actually, I think I was more nervous dropping my daughter off in DC than I would be USNA ; USNA (and particularly Plebe Summer) is a lot more controlled environment. Hoops nails it.. take it one step at a time, and in 4 years ...she'll wonder where the time went.
 
Old Navy BGO said:
NOLA -- don't worry. DD will do fine . The truth is , from what I see on these pages, this appears to be tougher on the Parents than it is the Plebes. Its an interesting perspective that I never even thought about when my parents put me on the plane 30+ years ago. I've sent two daughters off to civilian schools, so I have a feeling what its like from Parents perspective Actually, I think I was more nervous dropping my daughter off in DC than I would be USNA ; USNA (and particularly Plebe Summer) is a lot more controlled environment. Hoops nails it.. take it one step at a time, and in 4 years ...she'll wonder where the time went.
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Heck...Take it one flight, one mission, one cruise, one deployment, one PCS move, one duty station, one command tour....at a time...and you'll wonder where 34 years went....:(
 
NavyHoops said:
She will be fine! She got accepted therefore she has what it takes. There will be good and bad days. Take it one meal at a time and take nothing personally. As to you... just remember she is being well taken care of and she chose this path (even after a year at a civilian university). Trust me... if I made it thru USNA... so can she!
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Thanks Hoops. But I am still gonna have that Old Fashioned tonight.
 
I had seen videos of the doors closing on YouTube, so I had no desire to suffer through it in real time. We said goodbye to our now Firstie, watched them start marching in and before those doors closed I was already sat in a local restaurant downing my first beer.
 
Old fashioneds are delicious... I think you definitely should have one!

Well the advantage to not watching the doors close... no wait for a table after the mad rush!
 
I think 'Long Ago' nails it for a lot of younger plebes. Straight out of High School oneday so long Mom so long Dad then next. This thread is a little darker than it needs to be, (I think I contributed to that). The intention was to offer advise that might make it easier for a given plebe and plebe parent to deal with IDay and PS. If I were a CL 2021 plebe2b or a 2021 parent I'd read for the practical stuff; fore-warned is good.
nolamomma said:
So I really needed this the most today. I reread this thread tree times. My DD is 7 days away for IDay. Last night, we talked about her biggest worries. Now I can't sleep. Just who I am dont judge;). She attended a private university last year and made the decision to apply to USNA late last fall. USNA IS WHERE SHE BELONGS FOR SURE and she needed to figure that out on her own.
These are her fears. That she is not at the top of her physical fitness. She was a 4 year varsity soccer player but has not had that much physical exercise in a year. She can run 3-4 miles in 8 mins. and can do the min push ups and what not but she does not feel confident.
Academically- She has not taken Chem or Physics since her Jr. year in high school or had cal in over a year. She is feel rusty there. She was a 4.0 last year in college but had not STEM classes.
I am going to share this thread with her and I believe it will help her. Now on to me.
Just feeling so nervous for her. My heart knows she will be great but gosh, my head will not get out of the way. Kind words would help me sleep tonight or I will have to resort to an old fashion.......AGAIN.
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Nola,
My DD wrote me a note for Fathers day, It read in part "Dad I want you to know I am actually living my dream (dreams I didn't even know I had). It makes me happy that I'm maybe living a little bit of your dream too. I just can't imagin being anywhere else"

Your daughter will be fine, you will be fine. PS and Plebe year are harder than freshman year at the local University, but----- "its a good hard"
 
It seems dark but it's not! The great news is attrition is amazingly low. USNA wants them to stay and succeed. Their fellow classmates and upperclass want them to succeed. As those who have experienced these milestones and are still experiencing them as their kids navigate USNA, it really is a great experience. Trust me when I say having a loving and supportive family cheering you on is huge as a Mid. It's not a luxury every Mid has. It makes life much easier knowing you have someone to call and just whine to. We don't need it solved, sometimes a Mid just needs to unload and talk it out loud without being judged. Sometimes they need a pep talk that they can do it and other days they need you to send money! ;)
 
nolamomma said:
These are her fears. That she is not at the top of her physical fitness.
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It's certainly better to show up in top shape, but don't worry, she will be in great shape by the end of PS. Running is done in groups, so she may start in a slower group. This is no big deal. She should just make sure she doesn't drop out of any runs and strive to move up to faster groups. Working hard and improving is the key.
nolamomma said:
She has not taken Chem or Physics since her Jr. year in high school or had cal in over a year.
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She should take it one step at a time. Concentrate on PS now, then when the academic year starts work hard and ask for help as soon as there are signs of trouble. There is help available, but she'll need to take the initiative and ask for it.

Not gonna lie, there will be good and bad days for her - and you. But she will get through it and so will you. As others have said, she has been accepted so she has what it takes to make it.
 
This is a parent that gets it. And a family that does, too! My hat is off to you and your family. As for your DS tell him from a proud American. Thank you for your service and defending the freedom of the greatest country in the world the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA.

Good luck and God Speed to you DS and you family,

RGK
 
NavyHoops said:
It seems dark but it's not! The great news is attrition is amazingly low. USNA wants them to stay and succeed. Their fellow classmates and upperclass want them to succeed. As those who have experienced these milestones and are still experiencing them as their kids navigate USNA, it really is a great experience.
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I have to echo Hoops, and apologize if my responses seemed "dark." That's really, honestly not how I meant to recall that day AT ALL! Sure, it's exhausting and it disrupts everything you (thought you) knew, but so are graduations and births and marriages and so forth. When I got married, I knew my life would change. When I had my son, I knew life would be different on the other side - I didn't know how, but I saw those changes coming. I-day was the very first time I had been through such a major life transition like that. Even though I voluntarily separated from USNA, I count that I-day as one of the cherished moments of my life, when Before and After were unalterably different.
 
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