Our DS is also at Maxwell, but he is @22 days from finishing, not that I am counting!
The one thing I think that needs to be stressed is helo parents can do more harm than good. You need to be the soft landing spot for them, but remember that according to the AF and their ROTC det., they are not children, they are not minors. They are adults. They need to take control of their situation.
Our DS has hit rough spots every now and then. He tells us about them, we suggest how to handle the situation, but THAT IS IT! We remind him, that as an officer he will have to work through issues and we can't do it for him. We are also fortunate because his father not only served in the AF, but was an AFROTC cadet, so our DS feels comfortable in confiding to us and listening to suggestions...not that he adheres to the suggestions, but he does hear them and evaluates them from his standpoint.
The quickest way for him to have a blaring signal placed on him, is if the folks get involved. They want to see their maturity level, not a cadet that runs to the folks to help them out.
This site is great for cadets and parents because it allows them the opportunity to voice questions and concerns without recrimination. It gives security that they aren't the 1st one to walk the path and certainly won't be the last. Much of it is anecdotal or det specific, but there is a sense of calmness that comes over you when you read, don't worry, this happens all the time. Or when you understand the logic of why it is occurring. The unknown is the scary part. I will say as a wife who dated her DH as an ROTC cadet, spent 20 yrs following him around as AFAD spouse, and now an AFROTC MOM, this is the easiest part of the equation. The difficult part will be when you get the phone call saying "I am deploying to XYZ for 120 days +/-. Or receiving a phone call that your 1st grandbaby was born and because they live overseas, you won't be there to look through the hospital nursery window. It will be hard on them too. They will miss you and your family terribly for the holidays, birthdays and special occasions. Like I said this might seem hard emotionally because you want them to get their dream, but these are baby steps. The minute you pin on the butter bars, life changes and you will ask God to roll back time for what you now consider scary.
For cadets, I would suggest that you also take the time and bond with other cadets, especially upper classmen. They get it, and will be a great source of advice from their own anecdotal experience within the det. There is no 100% guarantee do this and it all works out mold, there just a 100% guarantee if you ignore any issue, it won't go away.