The gloves are an issue, but the range of motion will also be an issue. Honestly, the ADD meds would be my main concern since you were on them for a decade when it comes to DodMerb.
That being stated, FloridaDad is correct since you stated the fiscal issue is not an issue, thus scholarship isn't an issue. You need to first get good grades in college to be able to compete for a UPT slot, and than you need to do well enough in UPT to graduate. You are thinking about step 7 and you have yet to even started step 1.
Here's an example of your route:
1. Get into ROTC
2. GPA matters and ROTC matters
~ 2.5 gpa and not selected for SFT, odds go down
~ 10 cadets out of 42 apply for UPT, racking and stacking matters. 7 get it.
So for the original 42, and 7 get it @ 16%
3. Get UPT
~ Out of the original class of 50, 5 get Fighters. 10% get fighters
In other words you need to be in the 10% of that 16%.
Go for it, because that will motivate you when you want to hang with friends instead of studying. Yet, be realistic and understand that DoDMerb really isn't the issue regarding chances of getting to fly, it is the actual stats of how many ROTC cadets get into the fighter world.
Again, great to have that goal, but you need to understand there are so many more steps ahead of you...5 yrs of steps before UPT.
You are also correct DodMerb may or may not be an issue too at some point regarding your hand.
My advice stop thinking so far in advance, address what is on your plate currently. Once that is done, move onto the next step, so on and so forth.
For all you know you will get to college, join the det and decide that you don't want the AF at all or maybe Intel or JAG.
Live for today, and think about tomorrow. Don't live for tomorrow.