Ok, I have an opportunity to fly free to Japan to where our DS will be in about 1 month. His sea partner's mom works w/ an airline and she made the offer and wants to go. That would be a trip of a lifetime for me! But I don't know if we should go w/out our ds's approval. I can imagine their concern about the crew thinking mommies flew all the way to see their ds's. I know that time would be limited in seeing them if they get off at port. (they are supposed to be there again for 10 days..yes, things may change). We were wondering how soon in advance, if at all, the guys will know if they have port time. And how can we present this opportunity of a lifetime for 2 moms to see Yokohama and their guys without them feeling embarresed?