I think each kid needs to really dig down deep to discern what kind of environment would be the best for him/her. I think some kids can get caught up in the prestige of the academies and a perception that the most successful officers come from that commissioning source, and ignore the fact that that an academy may not be the best fit for them. I recently asked both my DD and DS if they have any regrets in the choice they each made. They both resoundingly said, "NO!" DD had started the process of applying to academies, after going to NASS and SLE. In my heart, I truly believe she had the total package to get appointed, however, she believed that it was not going to be the best path for her. Admittedly, I was somewhat disappointed, but knowing how we had raised our children, I knew she had intently discerned this decision. She opted to pursue the ROTC route and is a Midshipman at the University of Notre Dame. She absolutely loves it there, from the religious experience, to her NROTC unit, to the diverse group of friends she has made and never regretted her decision not to go to an academy. Our DS, is currently a Plebe at USMA. He knew that he would thrive in the disciplined environment, (he actually likes morning formations!) enjoys the mandatory sports, doesn't think he's missing out on the party/fraternity scene and is doing exceedingly well there. So, even though they each took a different path, neither one has regrets.