Commissioning question
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Don't know about how you want to handle expenses, but you had better get some reservations made for them, or have them make some quickly, unless you are local.
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DD got married last year, so this issue is kind of related. We paid for those family members we knew were strapped but others were on their own.
The following is from a wedding etiquette website. Just substitute "commissioning" for the word wedding and I believe it is transferrable.
"You're not obligated to pay your wedding guests' travel or hotel expenses. It is nice, however, to make it easier on guests by letting them know when your wedding will be as early as possible so they can start calling around for good airfares. You should also research hotels to see where you can get a good group rate; often, when a wedding party brings in a lot of guests, the hotel will give a discount to the group. You shouldn't actually make the reservations, rather reserve a block of rooms, and then send your guests the hotel information they'll need along with the invitations. They should be given a reservation number, the nightly rate, as well as what to say when they call (it might be something like, "We're with the Smith/Jones wedding").
If there are guests that you must have at your wedding who just can't afford to be there, by all means help them out so they'll be there on your big day. But in no way should anyone expect you to do so."
Source: https://www.theknot.com/content/should-you-paywedding-guests-expenses
The following is from a wedding etiquette website. Just substitute "commissioning" for the word wedding and I believe it is transferrable.
"You're not obligated to pay your wedding guests' travel or hotel expenses. It is nice, however, to make it easier on guests by letting them know when your wedding will be as early as possible so they can start calling around for good airfares. You should also research hotels to see where you can get a good group rate; often, when a wedding party brings in a lot of guests, the hotel will give a discount to the group. You shouldn't actually make the reservations, rather reserve a block of rooms, and then send your guests the hotel information they'll need along with the invitations. They should be given a reservation number, the nightly rate, as well as what to say when they call (it might be something like, "We're with the Smith/Jones wedding").
If there are guests that you must have at your wedding who just can't afford to be there, by all means help them out so they'll be there on your big day. But in no way should anyone expect you to do so."
Source: https://www.theknot.com/content/should-you-paywedding-guests-expenses