Communication with cadets

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madison343

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My significant other is in the academy right now and will be finishing basic very soon. I am looking for some more information about how communication will change once they finish basic. Do cadets still have scheduled timed phone calls and do they have access to text or will communication still mainly be limited to letters?
 
They’re gonna be able to use their phones from after dinner until the morning. Some squads may be more lax on this but that is the minimum official guidance until A-Day.
 
Tx2AFA said:
They’re gonna be able to use their phones from after dinner until the morning. Some squads may be more lax on this but that is the minimum official guidance until A-Day.
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That's not bad considering my Basic's flight has been extremely strict this whole time (only 2 phone calls- and only because those were mandatory, exactly 5 minutes each- someone counting down in the background). I would just like to ask how you know that is 'official' because that would be wonderful for my Basic! Thanks.
Do you know if that begins today?
 
CAUTION - communication is great. You miss your significant other. PLEASE remember the two of you are a team and the team only wins if that significant other GRADUATES. Until now, you have likely spent most waking moments together. You had cell phones for texting, snap, insta, facebook and the likes. Be guarded with the amount of engagement you have with your cadet because you are a distraction whether you want to be or not. Period.

FWIW - I am still married to the girl I was dating when I entered USAFA as a basic in 1995 and believe I am qualified to speak on the topic. As a 2% club member, I implore you to block time in the week - NOT DAILY. Check In, discuss your plans for the week, discuss the highs, try to avoid the lows to avoid homesickness, avoid the constant desire to get their attention and get a response.

Radio silence is perfectly OK and you need to understand the bigger picture and the broader goals for your life and relationship. Be a reason your partner is successful and not a contributing factor for their failure because they already have too much on their plate to solve for in a day - don't be the one that causes the proverbial plate to fall to the ground and crash as they seek to please you and all of the other entities vying for their time and attention.
 
madison343 said:
My significant other is in the academy right now and will be finishing basic very soon. I am looking for some more information about how communication will change once they finish basic. Do cadets still have scheduled timed phone calls and do they have access to text or will communication still mainly be limited to letters?
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Current restrictions will be in place until A-Day on when the basics are allowed to use their phone. However, after A-Day, phone usage will not be restricted.
 
@TLR2025 That should start tomorrow (Saturday) with the beginning of transition week and the ‘end’ of basic training. I know because I’m on the Wing command team for the fall.
 
I will add to shiners great post

Advice for anyone dating a Cadet or Mid, you need to be a rock for them. They will have much stress, worry, doubt, failures etc.. They will not need added stress by their significant other complaining about them not returning calls or texts, Telling them how badly you miss them and wish they were home. Constantly asking if they still love you.
Or even telling them all of your problems.

Instead listen to them, support them, encourage them, tell them you love them and believe in them and their chosen path, tell them you will always be there for them and not to worry, tell them you’re proud of them, tell them they can call or text you anytime it’s convenient for them and you understand they’re busy, do all you can at the home front to support them, and ultimately, be their rock.
 
shock-n-awe said:
I will add to shiners great post

Advice for anyone dating a Cadet or Mid, you need to be a rock for them. They will have much stress, worry, doubt, failures etc.. They will not need added stress by their significant other complaining about them not returning calls or texts, Telling them how badly you miss them and wish they were home. Constantly asking if they still love you.
Or even telling them all of your problems.

Instead listen to them, support them, encourage them, tell them you love them and believe in them and their chosen path, tell them you will always be there for them and not to worry, tell them you’re proud of them, tell them they can call or text you anytime it’s convenient for them and you understand they’re busy, do all you can at the home front to support them, and ultimately, be their rock.
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Make the relationship all about the Mid/Cadet - that sounds like winning relationship advice

Most high school relationships aren’t going to last the first year apart regardless of where people go

live near learn, but it’s very sad to see someone leave over a BF/GF at home
 
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