I swore I'd never come on this website again. Prior service DD was dating a fellow soldier prior to her appointment to West Point. He has subsequently become an NCO. They are still dating. He is not based at West Point. His current commander refuses to let him take a pass or leave to visit her as he says the relationship violates regulations. However, what I read in AR 600-20 is: "4–14. Relationships between Soldiers of different grade. ... (2) Dating, shared living accommodations other than those directed by operational requirements, and intimate or sexual relationships between officers and enlisted personnel, or NCOs and junior enlisted Soldiers. This prohibition does not apply to the following: ... (b) Situations in which a relationship that complies with this policy would move into noncompliance due to a change in status of one of the members (for instance, a case where two junior enlisted members are dating and one is subsequently commissioned or selected to be a WO, commissioned officer, or NCO). In relationships where one of the enlisted members has entered into a program intended to result in a change in his or her status from enlisted to officer or junior enlisted Soldier to NCO, the couple must terminate the relationship permanently or marry within one year of the date of the appointment or the change in status occurs." So the way I read this they can continue dating until one year after DD is commissioned. Thoughts?