Fencersmother's story brought back a memory of an experience that tested us from the get go.
Married in September, me stationed in Naples, IT, and him in Norfolk, VA, after dating trans-Atlantic for 2 years. A year's worth of planning and negotiating got us excellent orders, me to shore duty Monterey, CA, him to a ship in then-NAS Alameda, CA, both detaching in Dec and reporting in Jan, 30 days leave authorized. Yay. 109 miles Alameda-Monterey, doable. He detaches from ship in Med, joins me in Naples, and we pack up my place and get ready to execute car shipment, household goods moves, pick up his car in Norfolk and execute yet another XC drive from Norfolk to Bay area. My last day at Naples office, received a message for him, dreaded words "ORDMOD." He is now going to a ship in San Diego, report in Dec, deploying first week of January, 9 month cruise. 439 miles between SD and Monterey, all household plans scrapped, holy crap. Mad change of various logistics plans, XC pared down to no en route friends and family stops, and that was our first year of dual military couple life. And - no email, Skype or texting... some of you may remember the old trick of numbering letters on the envelope so when the irregular mail drops at sea occurred via FPO (fleet post office), news unfolded in a way that made sense. Ah yes, 20th C. sea stories.