From BarbieK (in late January):
This must be tough for a kid that never received less than an A in any class and he attended a private school that was considered academically challenging.
OH! How many times have parents and kids encountered this statement! "My child graduated with a 5.9 on a 4.0 scale, and was class president, and captain of six sports, and was band leader and general in CAP...."
And, now, DS/DD is at USAFA or USMA or USNA along with all the other kids who had similar stats.... It can be a really rude awakening for our children, who yes, were superstars in their high schools and communities. They still are stars; it's just that all their friends and classmates are too. Now, they are being measured against the best of the best, not against the kid down the road who will own his own plumbing company and be a millionaire by age 35 (if my plumbing bills are any indication), or the kids who are having their second babies at 16, or the kids who think they'll set the world afire if they can just get through pre-algebra.
Tough, too, for parents - who sometimes live vicariously through their kids (not accusing BarbieK nor anyone else of such; it just sometimes happens).
Much to weigh in looking to 2+5 years of commitment.
My dear friend has twin daughters, one of whom graduated USMA 7 years ago. She now owns her own home, and after five years (I think Management or similar major), is in charge of 350 people at large corp. Twin sis, same degree from Flagship U, is still paying off $39,000 of debt and has a job in rival company. She's in charge of 45 people.