@BillyDiamond - some Navy command and control (C2) and NROTC scholarship process background.
Two separate 1-star Flag Officer commands involved in the NROTC scholarship selection process. Commander, Naval Service Training Command (CNSTC) owns the NROTC program and the scholarship selection/placement. Commander, Navy Recruiting Command (CNRC) owns the folks who receive, process, and submit the applications to the folks at NSTC. Both Commanders work for Commander, Naval Education and Training Command (CNETC).
The link provided several times above -to Locate a Coordinator - is an NSTC link that will get you to an NRC link.
NRC divides the country into Navy Talent and Acquisition Groups (NTAG), formerly known as Navy Recruiting Districts. Your scholarship application is shepherded by the NTAG that geographically corresponds to the part of the country you live in. At the website for each NTAG there is a typically a link for Contact Us and usually a phone number for the NROTC Coordinator, NROTC recruiter, or any other name they might call it. Regardless of the title, this person works for NRC and not NSTC. The goal of NRC is to make sure the Navy is properly manned. And our workforce is ~80% enlisted.
In searching this forum you'll find many who had difficult experiences with their recruiter/coordinator and some (like
@justdoit19) who had great experiences. It should not be hit or miss, but those are the realities. You and your DD will need to be vigilant to ensure her application is being given the attention it deserves and is being properly processed and ultimately submitted to NSTC.
The advice you were given (enlisting shows commitment) is awful. But it is not uncommon for any Navy recruiter (even those whose assigned duty is to process NROTC scholarship applications) to ask if your son/daughter wishes to enlist (in line with ~80% target above). If that's not a consideration for your family, the best answer is that my DD is only interested in NROTC. In my dealings with NROTC scholarship applicants this always seems to end the enlistment conversation and the two sides move forward with the application process.