DQ Advice for Parents

DSANN

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@Poster2025 Breathe! You have something on your side right now! TIME! Take a couple of deep breathes and relax. I know your pain and fear - we all want our kids to achieve what they truly want and the thought of a DQ just takes your breathe away. Been there! Mr. Mullen is terrific - but your son will need to deal with him directly (I think you know that though) Let this take its course. My son was so calm last year through his DQ process (and smack in the middle of Covid here in NY when everything was shuttered) and I wanted to just scream and say "move over - let me do this for you". This is a big step for them to handle their own advocacy but so worth it! My son received a waiver, at the end of May, so to go back to my first sentence - your son has plenty of time to straighten this out and provide all the documentation they require to achieve a waiver. Best of luck to your son!
 

Poster2025

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@Poster2025 Breathe! You have something on your side right now! TIME! Take a couple of deep breathes and relax. I know your pain and fear - we all want our kids to achieve what they truly want and the thought of a DQ just takes your breathe away. Been there! Mr. Mullen is terrific - but your son will need to deal with him directly (I think you know that though) Let this take its course. My son was so calm last year through his DQ process (and smack in the middle of Covid here in NY when everything was shuttered) and I wanted to just scream and say "move over - let me do this for you". This is a big step for them to handle their own advocacy but so worth it! My son received a waiver, at the end of May, so to go back to my first sentence - your son has plenty of time to straighten this out and provide all the documentation they require to achieve a waiver. Best of luck to your son!
Thank you so much. The support on this forum is so helpful.
 

Poster2025

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Things are moving rather quickly now. Within 3-4 days of DQ, received notice about the Waiver Request, then notice that DoDMERB is working on another AMI. Now AMI posted and they are pretty easy/straight forward deliverables. Just wanted to post for reference for those researching in the future (like we were) understanding of course the process and outcomes are different for everyone. Still hoping for a positive outcome here.
 
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I've heard people say this process (i.e., applying to a SA) is a marathon, not a sprint... sometimes I think its more of a decathlon than a marathon. Watching DS, I have the utmost respect for all the DS/DD that decide to follow through with all aspects of their application. It is awesome to watch these kids work so hard to achieve something they want that is so demanding in all areas of life. @Poster25 - hope all gets resolved positively for your DS! Thank you for the perspective. DoDMERB for DS is next week and there is always a possibility that he may be in the same boat (#GoNavy - couldn't resist)!
 

MullenLE

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It's not designed to be that way, but when a goal is worth achieving, then the journey is part of the process.
You know, in these times, medical appointments in general are challenging at best, so "context" is important :wiggle:
 

Poster2025

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Another quick update for reference and future readers. He has since responded to two different AMI's on the same DQ. He now has a medical appointment, that as we guess, is meant to give him a final clearance. At least that is how we are interpreting based on the previous AMI which further confirmed his medical concern has presented zero ongoing issue. Of course, we don't know for sure, nor will we ever....we're just waiting for the magical words "waiver granted."

Otherwise, everything has moved along quite expeditiously with the "next step" always posting within 24 hours or so in the appropriate portal and DoDMERB has been very responsive and easy to work with 👍
 

MullenLE

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It is 2020...the rules of almost everything have changed. We ALL are trying our best to navigate thru these ever changing circumstances. Thx!!:band:
 
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