Drug waiver

Discussion in 'Air Force Academy - USAFA' started by AirForceProud, Aug 5, 2018.

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Is there any part of getting g a drug waiver that involves parents?

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  1. AirForceProud

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    I am currently trying to get a waiver for a one time past mj use, about the size of a fingertip, and without my parents knowledge, I am requesting one. Is there any part of the process of saying yes on form 2030 that involves my parents? I am not 18 yet, will be in October
     
  2. FMHS-79

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    After seeing several of your recent threads, my personal parental opinion is to tell everyone with a need to know (including your parents) as soon as practicable. You will find in your career that bad news does not age well.

    I also told my sons that yes, there may be ramifications from their actions, but those ramifications will be worse by an order of magnitude if they lie about or try to mask the impact of those actions.

    IMHO... take it for what it is worth.
     
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  3. AirForceProud

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    No of course I plan to tell them, it's just I want to be the one that tells them instead of finding out from the mail or email. Telling them is one of my goals in this process, I just wanted to know the process so I can plan it
     
  4. time2

    time2 10-Year Member

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    Asking us the same basic question in the multiple threads won't change the advice you are being given.
     
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  5. AirForceProud

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    Yes I know, once again I plan to tell them as soon as possible, I just wanted more info on the drug waiver process so I can prepare
     
  6. Capt MJ

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    “Telling them as soon as possible (for you to decide you can face them).”

    Are they in the house with you right now? (Rhetorical) You know when it’s possible.

    This is totally in your hands, the decision to tell. I completely get that seeing the upset look on your mom’s face or hearing the disappointed tone in your dad’s voice is not something you want to do right now.

    Rip the bandaid off. That solves all other concerns about who knows what goes on which form. You can also say you are proactively researching the waiver process with the right sources, and it’s your impression so far that many applicants for the military report one-time or experimental drug use during HS.
     
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  7. AirForceProud

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    What many people don't get is the physical side of the punishment. I've been hit before. For much better things.
     
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    Ah. I am so very sorry to hear that. Proceed as you wish.
     
  9. Devil Doc

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    Whoever hit you is a criminal. You will be 18 soon. Make any decision in your best interest. You have options now which includes the involvement of the law. As a teacher I'm an obligated reporter of this crime. I don't know you or where you are and can't do much from my keyboard. PM me if you need to talk in private.
     
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    +1 Devil Doc.
    I agree, you can leave this life behind once you turn 18. Be absolutely truthful on all your documents. Explain the intimidation you are experiencing at home to an interviewer when explaining the discrepancy.

    Another major concern I have is if you have younger siblings remaining at home. :(
     
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    Many of us parents on this forum tend to paint other parents as having the same values. This thread illustrates that some candidates are dealing with a far more disadvantaged and damaging environment.

    We should all keep this in mind when a candidate expresses concern over parents.
     
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  12. AirForceProud

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  13. AROTC-dad

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    That is what many abused children and spouses say.
     
  14. AirForceProud

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    I swear it's not abuse, let's continue this over a pm
     
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  15. AirForceProud

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    How would I tell them then? I'm trying g to tell them in the best way possible
     
  16. Devil Doc

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    Both my kids are in their 30s and very accomplished in life and their careers. I and my wife still worry and cheer and hover like they are still 10 years old. I've been teaching and coaching youth and high school sports for a long time and for the most part, parents are good to go and want the best for their kids. I see familial pressures from all sub-groups and socio-economic levels. In the same school building we have Route One immigrants living in crowded apartments and Potomac River mansion kids. I am entering my 12th year in this school system and am still amazed at parents' ability to participate in their child's success and on the other pole, not find time to be involved at all. And the difference in the two crosses the lines of income. It doesn't take money to be a great parent.

    A young person mentioning on the Internet being hit by a parent is not the same as asking, "I want to be a SEAL, sniper, pilot and my visual acuity is 20/400. What are my chances?" Anyway, all you long timers here know all that. The OP's post just triggered me. I'm gonna go chill for a bit.
     
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